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1 week ago
Straight Male, 67
Bi-curious Female, 59
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Quote by Suede-head
I started to post on the forums but it wasn't the personal attacks that have put me off but the "staleness" of the threads / posts.
They focus around the same posters, fresh input is lost in between the repetitive bollox in many threads trying to point score and prove another person`s views are "wrong". An interesting topic with well thought out arguments then are allowed to go down the same track as all the others.
I prefer thought out posts that present argument and counter arguments without bringing personalities into it. Readers can then decide for themselves which posters are producing well thought out postings and those that are not.
Some people's posts may frustrate us and want us to repost to them but fear this is becoming the style of many postings. Much better we all attack the opinion rather than the person, unfortunatley the personal nature of postings prevents myself and indeed many from posting.

Quote by duncanlondon
I think the 'dominant' types who end up in a row with all and sundry; become caricatures of themselves. They tend to keep up the image and this causes them to respond to most threads in a characterstic way. Which more often than not causes people to avoid their line of debate; because they know where and how the converstaion is likely to go.
People will become personal, because in many cases their thoughts are important to them. When the intellect breaks down through confusion or stress then people will defend themselves passionately with the most basic emotions. At which point again it becomes open to ridicule or abuse, but also people will avoid them when in this state.
The problem with old hands and strong characters is that often a thread will be directed quickly down a line of discussion with little or no hope of it becoming more accessible to a wider audience.

In my humble opinion these two comments strike at the heart of the debate.
Quote by jaymar
To the people 'dis'ing' resurrected threads, can I ask what the problem is?? dunno
Does it matter if 1, 10 or 100 threads are resurrected as long as they're being enjoyed??
Why do these things have to be a flippin problem! rolleyes

The problem is that some people get jumped on because of it that's why!
That really isn't an answer to my question BBW, no disrespect. If people are getting 'jumped on' that'll happen regardless of new or old threads.
My question remains, what is the problem with resurrecting?? smile
I don't see a problem with resurrecting, but if you resurrect a thread and you get 'jumped on' then obviously those that criticize see it as a problem. Then people who read the thread go away with the impression that it's something that should not be welcomed.
Quote by TanKinky
Yellow - coldplay
Tony Orlando & Dawn - "Tie a Yellow Ribbon Round the Ole Oak Tree
Im Blue Eiffel 65
Jefferson Airplane - White Rabbit
Laurent Garnier - The Man With The Red Face
Ultrabeat - Pretty Green Eyes

Tanny! You're waaaaaaaaaaaaaaay too young to know this surely? Either way I'm impressed.
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When logic and proportion
Have fallen sloppy dead
And the White Knight is talking backwards
And the Red Queen's "off with her head!"
Remember what the dormouse said;
"FEED YOUR HEAD
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I have old tastes in music, Janis Joplin, Frank Sinatra, led zep :shock: neil young, talking heads lol
Wow hunnie! You're good. I've even got most of that on vinyl too. The spirit of Woodstock is not dead.
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I wonder whether all this brow beating is to do with the fact that many who now feel sorry for Jade were the same people who were crucifying her only a year ago?
Guilt feelings perhaps?
dunno
Quote by jaymar
To the people 'dis'ing' resurrected threads, can I ask what the problem is?? dunno
Does it matter if 1, 10 or 100 threads are resurrected as long as they're being enjoyed??
Why do these things have to be a flippin problem! rolleyes

The problem is that some people get jumped on because of it that's why!
Quote by benrums0n
It is my belief, based on observation, that folk who contribute infrequently to this forum are more likely to suffer personal criticism for expressing their views than the regular contributors.
I think this damages the forums and is instrumental in ensuring that forums continue to have a limited number of participants.
What do you think?
I will donate a pound to the humanist society if this thread reaches page two without it being suggested that If I don't like the forums I should bugger off.

Totally agree! Increasingly these days it has become a mutual appreciation society.
Quote by benrums0n
It is my belief, based on observation, that folk who contribute infrequently to this forum are more likely to suffer personal criticism for expressing their views than the regular contributors.
I think this damages the forums and is instrumental in ensuring that forums continue to have a limited number of participants.
What do you think?
I will donate a pound to the humanist society if this thread reaches page two without it being suggested that If I don't like the forums I should bugger off.

Totally agree! Increasingly these days it has become a mutual appreciation society.
Flash me knob at everyone!
Well at least it gets a laugh.
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Quote by TanKinky
Yellow - coldplay
Tony Orlando & Dawn - "Tie a Yellow Ribbon Round the Ole Oak Tree
Im Blue Eiffel 65
Jefferson Airplane - White Rabbit
Laurent Garnier - The Man With The Red Face
Ultrabeat - Pretty Green Eyes

Tanny! You're waaaaaaaaaaaaaaay too young to know this surely? Either way I'm impressed.
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Films
Blue Velvet
Three Colours Blue
Three Colours White
Three Colours Red
Songs
Yellow Submarine
Blue Xmas
Quote by Ms_Whips
What makes me laugh is how a year ago no a single person had a good word to say about her, the papers hated her and took every chance they could get to pull her down pysically and mentally, the public didnt like her, noone i knew ever said oh i saw that jade in the papers today nice woman lol.....she was loud mouthed, arrogant and self opinionated to the point of being offensive, now all of a sudden its poor jade, brave jade.....and this is from the people who only months ago wouldnt have stamped on her if she was on fire, she still the same person why does having cancer all of a sudden make you likable? if i had to be dying before anyone had a good word to say about me i'd sooner them keep their pity thanx smile

The lone voice of reason once again naughtynymphos1. I've kept out of this because I agree totally with what you've just said, but didn't want to say anything because I didn't want to be treated like the spawn of the devil as I have been in the past.
So thank you naughtynymphos1 for making an extremely valid point.
i already said i feel sorry for what she is going through......but....
what they said up there ^^^^^^^^^ pretty much sums it up for me too i think.
whips
Good to see you on the good ship maverick.
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Quote by bouncy332
rather random but :thumbup: i like to think i'm still young but deffo got more than my fair share of a fuller figure :bounce:

bouncy xx gggggggggrrrrrrrr you look gr8 on ya profile ggggrrrrrrrrr
steve x
never said i didn't hun anyone who knows me will tell ya i love my figure love every inch of my wobblyness :thumbup:
Me too!
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ooooo mr lover man kiss
:bounce: :bounce: :bounce:
Geddit?
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Quote by bouncy332
rather random but :thumbup: i like to think i'm still young but deffo got more than my fair share of a fuller figure :bounce:

bouncy xx gggggggggrrrrrrrr you look gr8 on ya profile ggggrrrrrrrrr
steve x
never said i didn't hun anyone who knows me will tell ya i love my figure love every inch of my wobblyness :thumbup:
Me too!
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Quote by naughtynymphos1
What makes me laugh is how a year ago no a single person had a good word to say about her, the papers hated her and took every chance they could get to pull her down pysically and mentally, the public didnt like her, noone i knew ever said oh i saw that jade in the papers today nice woman lol.....she was loud mouthed, arrogant and self opinionated to the point of being offensive, now all of a sudden its poor jade, brave jade.....and this is from the people who only months ago wouldnt have stamped on her if she was on fire, she still the same person why does having cancer all of a sudden make you likable? if i had to be dying before anyone had a good word to say about me i'd sooner them keep their pity thanx smile

The lone voice of reason once again naughtynymphos1. I've kept out of this because I agree totally with what you've just said, but didn't want to say anything because I didn't want to be treated like the spawn of the devil as I have been in the past.
So thank you naughtynymphos1 for making an extremely valid point.
I like to vary it. Sometimes it's nice to have rampart, desperate sex that happens in minutes and leaves you exhausted. At other times to nice to have a slow, comfortable, leisurely sex session to really chill you out.
Most men think they have to last for hours and there's lots of pressure to do this, but most women seem to like the overall sensation rather than how long it last. Or maybe I'm just been lucky so far.
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Quote by R1_cple
lost...cant see your point,if you dont like it dont go in... of things on sh suit lots of different people,theres enough pc in the world with others adding to it.

I do sympathize Lost but I'm inclined to agree with this point of view. It's a more complicated issue than it first appears, but if enough people refuse to enter such a room it ceases to exist and democracy wins.
However I think it's good that you've raised the issue because every now and again I see room titles that concern me, and if I'm certain they go over the boundaries then I report it to the Mods.
What do we do with the others though that are clearly offensive but are within the rules? And are legal? Well I think that, just maybe, raising them in this kind of thread can help to clarify what we, on this site, think is acceptable.
So well done for raising the issue.
You guys are just too much! This is the funniest thread ever!
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For me it's got to be Sixth Sense, especially as I couldn't work it out, which drove me mad, but it was sooooooooo well crafted.
Definitely one of the best.
Quote by FrowningMango
Firstly, if anyone on here has any Mac questions then please feel free to ask me, as I'm an Apple Mac engineer.
When you click on the camera icon Adobe Flash should come up with a request allowing access. If it doesn't then you need to check the settings. To do this right click on the camera window in the top left (to right click with a one button mouse hold down the CTRL key and click)....select SETTINGS, and then then click on the camera tab and make sure you've got USB Video class video selected.
This should be the same with a MacBook Pro.
Incidentally I'm using Safari but I'm sure the same procedure is relevant for other browsers....and if you're using Internet Explorer on a Mac or a PC, DON'T!

Absolutely correct!
:thumbup: :thumbup: :thumbup:
… and remember the trick is to use the USB option. The built in iSight uses an internal USB connection. It confuses everyone because the old stand alone iSight camera was Firewire.
Hope that helps.
Quote by Sexysmilingeyes
Black guys .....
I have dated a black guy but probably wont swing with one, unless I meet him in a club maybe. I have nothing against any race / colour swinging but it annoys me when black guys think because they are black I will want to meet them .... why start off an email to me telling me your black ? I dont care what colour you are, I want to know if you'll make me smile and more importantly if we meet we'll have fun - not if your white, black or anything in between.
Think if the email is good enough for me to click onto a profile I'll be able to figure out what colour you are myself

Because some people are put off by it. I've been a victim of it myself, so it pays to lay your cards on the table as early as possible so that people have the option to say no.
Well as a designer I have all the usual skills, drawing, painting and designing etc. I used to write poetry and still write the odd one now and again, but they tend to be quite personal, very abstract and surreal.
I play the guitar, although I haven't played in a few years (so my Gibson Les Paul just gets stared at these days), and used to write my own compositions too. Even wrote some songs for a band I was once in.
Can't dance to save my life though. redface
I think it depends on the topic and what I feel I need to say to the individual. I have sometimes felt it easier to PM someone directly, either because what I need to say is slightly personal, or because I have so much to say that I feel it's inappropriate in an open forum and would bore people or would be so long that they wouldn't bother to read it anyway.
Also there are times when what I have to say doesn't warrant a debate, or angry retort (which seems to happen a lot these days), but is meant purely as information to the specific individual. So I think there are many reasons really, and has nothing to do with being open but more to do with being more targeted in one's messaging.
Have a really great birthday Cherrytree!
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:cheers: :cheers: :cheers: :cheers: :cheers:
:bounce: :bounce: :bounce: :bounce: :bounce:
:rose: :rose: :rose: :rose: :rose:
Looking forward to it alders. Will be good to see you again and have a catch up over a a drink or two.
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Quote by Bonedigger
i too have had secrets told to me by several members of the site.....i dont know what it is but people feel that5 i am th sort of person they can confide in..
i know what you mean when you say you feel very honoured...i consider it a high honour and priviledge to have been told the thimgs i have, and i do take that honour extremely seriously.
I take great pride in having their trust, and would never do anything to betray that trust....things that are told to me via SH pm are dleted when read, as are my replies, so that not even mr Bone sees them.
He doesnt use the forums and doesnt know the people involved, so doesnt need to see what they post privately to me.
i take every secret i am told to the grave.

Totally agree with you there Mrs B. Once someone tells me to keep something a secret it never gets mentioned, even if I know someone else has been told and I happen to know that person too.