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brightongoblin
Over 90 days ago
Straight Male, 56
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Hi there
All I can say, is being a dogger does not mean you are contracted to appear at a location at any specific time or date. Big deal if your site hase been quite for a few days, if its as popu;ar as you say, and you would know living next door, then you know it will come good again.
If you really want to move away, then follow the advice and get to know a few ppl first, or, like most os us, get in your car and go for a drive !! Did you really think that you would get invites to partake within five hours? You may get lucky, but if thats your expectation of dogging, then be prepared to be dissapointed !
All I can say, is being a dogger does not mean you are contracted to appear at a location at any specific time or date. Big deal if your site hase been quite for a few days, if its as popu;ar as you say, and you would know living next door, then you know it will come good again.
If you really want to move away, then follow the advice and get to know a few ppl first, or, like most os us, get in your car and go for a drive !! Did you really think that you would get invites to partake within five hours? You may get lucky, but if thats your expectation of dogging, then be prepared to be dissapointed !
Hi all,
I have just met up with a new found friend who wants to try dogging, so we are looking for a few others to join us. I am a st8 m, 36, tasha is interested in trying bi and is 20.
we are looking for single males, females or cpls for possible participation on thursday 27th, near Brighton.
If your interested, pm me and we can discuss
Paul
I have just met up with a new found friend who wants to try dogging, so we are looking for a few others to join us. I am a st8 m, 36, tasha is interested in trying bi and is 20.
we are looking for single males, females or cpls for possible participation on thursday 27th, near Brighton.
If your interested, pm me and we can discuss
Paul
Well. Its been 5 days since i first posted this poll following all the talk about unreliable meets, and theres been a dozen votes and a few comments, which to be honest is what I expected !
Seems those who shouted loudest had no comment to make about how they may be able to prove themselves, and there was no comments in favour of any ratings.
I do have to say, I was undecided, thinking maybe some scheme had merit but being unsure of how to set it up. However, having read the comments, I now agree.... I dont see how a rating system can help, i think it can only serve to muddy the waters even more.
So, whats to be gained from this... seems like the best way to use this forum is to take time, get to know ppl and turn up when invited ! ....But that has always been the advice given to everyone !
So there you are, everyone new to this site should take notice , those who give advice have been there, done it and know how to get along....dont waste that knowledge when its shared so freely !!
Seems those who shouted loudest had no comment to make about how they may be able to prove themselves, and there was no comments in favour of any ratings.
I do have to say, I was undecided, thinking maybe some scheme had merit but being unsure of how to set it up. However, having read the comments, I now agree.... I dont see how a rating system can help, i think it can only serve to muddy the waters even more.
So, whats to be gained from this... seems like the best way to use this forum is to take time, get to know ppl and turn up when invited ! ....But that has always been the advice given to everyone !
So there you are, everyone new to this site should take notice , those who give advice have been there, done it and know how to get along....dont waste that knowledge when its shared so freely !!
OOOhhhh, foul play gurl !!
you didnt quote the whole sentance that comment was made in....and it was a long time ago....and i said it didnt work..
BUT..... full marks for making my chin hit the floor as i didnt remember it at first !
Maybe its time i think about surrendering to you :twisted: !!!
you didnt quote the whole sentance that comment was made in....and it was a long time ago....and i said it didnt work..
BUT..... full marks for making my chin hit the floor as i didnt remember it at first !
Maybe its time i think about surrendering to you :twisted: !!!
Complicated one this, maybe.....
With all the talk of noshows and the like, i did see a comment regarding an ebay type rating. This got me to thinking...not so easy for me !
What does every one think about this, could it help? could it hinder? would it serve to identify timewasters or simply preclude newcomers? how could it work, what would it measure?
I am not gona try to provide answers, because I simply dont know.....but i am sure the collective intelligance on this site (excluding gurl or course !! hehe 2-1 to me !!) can shed some light, so for now, please, I would be interested in seeing your comments.
Please... dont get me wrong, I am NOT advocating one view or the other...just think it may make a good thread and I know its been raised many times, but seems there is still a problem, or is there??
With all the talk of noshows and the like, i did see a comment regarding an ebay type rating. This got me to thinking...not so easy for me !
What does every one think about this, could it help? could it hinder? would it serve to identify timewasters or simply preclude newcomers? how could it work, what would it measure?
I am not gona try to provide answers, because I simply dont know.....but i am sure the collective intelligance on this site (excluding gurl or course !! hehe 2-1 to me !!) can shed some light, so for now, please, I would be interested in seeing your comments.
Please... dont get me wrong, I am NOT advocating one view or the other...just think it may make a good thread and I know its been raised many times, but seems there is still a problem, or is there??
Hi there
Maybe its just me, but i would have thought that there were already many such clubs for 'all guys together' in Brighton, without setting up another. Not sure tho, maybe you need to check in with gurl, she seems to know whats going on in Brighton !! (lol, sorry gurl, couldnt resist )
Anyways, if you change your mind and want to open it to beth sexes and get replys, count me in !
Good luck
Maybe its just me, but i would have thought that there were already many such clubs for 'all guys together' in Brighton, without setting up another. Not sure tho, maybe you need to check in with gurl, she seems to know whats going on in Brighton !! (lol, sorry gurl, couldnt resist )
Anyways, if you change your mind and want to open it to beth sexes and get replys, count me in !
Good luck
Oh Puddle.......
If only u put as much effort into getting to know everyone as you have trying to defend the whole of the male human race, i am sure you would have much more luck.
If the stereotypical view of the single guy aint you, then leave it alone.
You know as well as I do, those who do let others down miss out, so just smile to yourself as they are making it better for you
If only u put as much effort into getting to know everyone as you have trying to defend the whole of the male human race, i am sure you would have much more luck.
If the stereotypical view of the single guy aint you, then leave it alone.
You know as well as I do, those who do let others down miss out, so just smile to yourself as they are making it better for you
Quote by gurl
There you go...I recently made a lttle joke at brightongoblins expense.....He does not seem to have taken offence at it. I am sure at some time in the future he will find some way of getting his own back.....And hopefully I will take it in good humour.
lol, gurl, ur learning !! one day, somewhere, in the dark of the countryside.... I will see you move....and well...... see my line below !! :twisted:
Not been a member long, but as a single guy I can say that I have never had any 'stupid' replies, nor felt as if I have been treated like a 'another single prat'.
Maybe thats because I respect all the replies I get, dont lie about myself, accept it when a woman says no, and, i think most importantly, understand that being a dogger does not mean i have a right to sex with anyone.
Everyone has to relise that each person has thier own reasons for doggin, and thier own way of doing it. Some like to just turn up and have fun, then go, no real friendship or anything (and no, not just males, I met 1 or 2 such single women), but others want to check you out a little. Lets face it, most of us need to at least find someone attractive b4 we play.
My best advice to anyone, is if the post subject relates to you, take the comments onboard, if it has nothing to do with you, move on to the next, lifes hard enough with out making problems for yourself or anyone else.
Maybe thats because I respect all the replies I get, dont lie about myself, accept it when a woman says no, and, i think most importantly, understand that being a dogger does not mean i have a right to sex with anyone.
Everyone has to relise that each person has thier own reasons for doggin, and thier own way of doing it. Some like to just turn up and have fun, then go, no real friendship or anything (and no, not just males, I met 1 or 2 such single women), but others want to check you out a little. Lets face it, most of us need to at least find someone attractive b4 we play.
My best advice to anyone, is if the post subject relates to you, take the comments onboard, if it has nothing to do with you, move on to the next, lifes hard enough with out making problems for yourself or anyone else.
Quote by gurl
Saying that you are still expected to sleep with at least one person of the same gender each week or you lose your 25% rebate from your council tax.
Ah ! that answers a lot.... why my tax bill went up and why i had to leave !! thanks gurl, i thought it was something i done, now i know it was something i didnt do !!
I think most of the 'married' singles are not really up for it, it just turns em on to think about meeting strangers. In other words, they get off on the fantasy, not the real thing. Lets face it, how many of us have a fantasy, but how many would really want to live up to it?
I reckon most guys would say they would 'shag' a stranger if they had the chance, but most wouldnt and those that would contain only a small percentage of guys who would respect boundaries.
I am a single guy, from just along the coast from Brighton, and I find that making arrangements often leads to long cold nights waiting. Most of my fun comes from the chance meet. Not to say that meets dont work, sure they do, but not that often.
As for Brighton, if only I had a pound for every time a guy asked me to met !!!! just incase anyone didnt know, its NOT a requirement to be bi of gay to live in Brighton.
oh, and why is it asumed that a guy out doggin will be up for anything, even gay? without being a tease etc....come on guys, we can say no aswell !!
I reckon most guys would say they would 'shag' a stranger if they had the chance, but most wouldnt and those that would contain only a small percentage of guys who would respect boundaries.
I am a single guy, from just along the coast from Brighton, and I find that making arrangements often leads to long cold nights waiting. Most of my fun comes from the chance meet. Not to say that meets dont work, sure they do, but not that often.
As for Brighton, if only I had a pound for every time a guy asked me to met !!!! just incase anyone didnt know, its NOT a requirement to be bi of gay to live in Brighton.
oh, and why is it asumed that a guy out doggin will be up for anything, even gay? without being a tease etc....come on guys, we can say no aswell !!
Hi all, its been a little while since i been here, house move and all that. I see lots of new names, so thought a re introduction was called for.
I am paul, a 36 yo single str8 clean guy from sussex, well west sussex! not into guys, but like cpls and gals !
Anyways, I not out every night, but have met a few great ppl, so if your looking for an impropture get together somewhere in sussex, drop me a line. happy to to just chat to newbies , watch or join in, whatever ur looking for !
Merry christmas to you all
Paul
I am paul, a 36 yo single str8 clean guy from sussex, well west sussex! not into guys, but like cpls and gals !
Anyways, I not out every night, but have met a few great ppl, so if your looking for an impropture get together somewhere in sussex, drop me a line. happy to to just chat to newbies , watch or join in, whatever ur looking for !
Merry christmas to you all
Paul
Hi there. Theres nothing wrong in asking, and if anyone has tips they can pm you, but for sure they shouldnt name sites on the open board, or the 'good' site wont be good any longer.
The trouble this way is that females are thin on the ground, and those that are out there either make arrangements via pm (good safe way to do it) or take their chances and just turn up somewhere.
Where do they turn up i hear you ask, well, thats the work bit, you gota find out, best way if you dont get help via pm is to visit places that may be good. Scout them in daylight, check out the area, then try at different times, if no luck move on, but give it a good chance, dont expect action with in 5 mins, and dont just drive round the car parks, make an evening of it.
If you dedicate the time and wait, it will happen.
The trouble this way is that females are thin on the ground, and those that are out there either make arrangements via pm (good safe way to do it) or take their chances and just turn up somewhere.
Where do they turn up i hear you ask, well, thats the work bit, you gota find out, best way if you dont get help via pm is to visit places that may be good. Scout them in daylight, check out the area, then try at different times, if no luck move on, but give it a good chance, dont expect action with in 5 mins, and dont just drive round the car parks, make an evening of it.
If you dedicate the time and wait, it will happen.
you only get a break when you keep to the rules, no wonder many sites get filled up with mbb and boy racers when they are named.
The van you refer to was no doubt the one from the local recovery service they incase all the headlight flashing resulted in flat batteries.
Anyway, whats it matter who it was, as long as not the police, which you already state it wasnt.
The van you refer to was no doubt the one from the local recovery service they incase all the headlight flashing resulted in flat batteries.
Anyway, whats it matter who it was, as long as not the police, which you already state it wasnt.
To be honest, and I aint a beliver that violence works, but if this geezer tried getting involved without invite, then its his look out if he gets a slap.
On the other hand, you gotta relise that having sex outside, even if in a car, may well atract attention, even if you were not at a doggin site.
Lets just all be pleased that he was only a dogger, not a group of lads armed with baseball bats, who knows what may have happened to you and your lady friend. !!
On the other hand, you gotta relise that having sex outside, even if in a car, may well atract attention, even if you were not at a doggin site.
Lets just all be pleased that he was only a dogger, not a group of lads armed with baseball bats, who knows what may have happened to you and your lady friend. !!
Hi Mal
Glad you had an alround enjoyable time, I am sure there are many in Brighton who would have taken up your offer, but if you do find them, let me know !
Sounds like plan B should have been promoted to plan A ! As for the pier, yes, twice someone thought it would look nice in an orange glow, and mother nature had a part to play as well.
Maybe if you down thid way again, we can meet up, but I only just started a new job, so am getting home quite late at the moment.
Anyways, pleased to hear you had a good time.
Paul
Glad you had an alround enjoyable time, I am sure there are many in Brighton who would have taken up your offer, but if you do find them, let me know !
Sounds like plan B should have been promoted to plan A ! As for the pier, yes, twice someone thought it would look nice in an orange glow, and mother nature had a part to play as well.
Maybe if you down thid way again, we can meet up, but I only just started a new job, so am getting home quite late at the moment.
Anyways, pleased to hear you had a good time.
Paul
The thing to remember is how many with your star sign would have gone out that night.....how many with friends......how many musicians are there. Some where along the line I reckon that prophecy would have come true for a good many folks.
If you take time to read all the 'horror-scopes' they are so wide open that for them not to apply to someone is impossible.
As for stuff like the Tarrot, my sister reads the cards...or should I say she is expert at picking up on feelings and reactions. She feeds these back into her reading and thus provide the person with the positive mental attitude to go forward and kind off sublinely aim towards the reading if it was good, or away if it was bad, thus acheiving the prediction.
Real or fake, who knows, but they all make you think about yourself, and thats where all this physco stuff works, deep within yourself. Only YOU can make the difference.
If you take time to read all the 'horror-scopes' they are so wide open that for them not to apply to someone is impossible.
As for stuff like the Tarrot, my sister reads the cards...or should I say she is expert at picking up on feelings and reactions. She feeds these back into her reading and thus provide the person with the positive mental attitude to go forward and kind off sublinely aim towards the reading if it was good, or away if it was bad, thus acheiving the prediction.
Real or fake, who knows, but they all make you think about yourself, and thats where all this physco stuff works, deep within yourself. Only YOU can make the difference.
Sorry to say this Gurl, but even I get that prob, and I am a guy !!!
Its just so sad that there are so many insecure blokes out there that have to hide behind a screen and act all macho.
I bet a pound to a penny, anyone who starts with stuff like a/s/l is sitting there next to a large box of kleenex, proberbly with a web cam aimed at their nether reigons and if they ever do arrange a meet, they will email the next day with some lame excuse for leaving you waiting ( not relising that you didnt waste the time and had a great time with them other blokes who did turn up)
I must admit tho, when I was in my prime ( not that many years ago lol) i had a line which went like...' hi, do you like kids?.....you do?.....great....wana go halfs on one ?'
Still trying to work out why it didnt work !!
Paul
Its just so sad that there are so many insecure blokes out there that have to hide behind a screen and act all macho.
I bet a pound to a penny, anyone who starts with stuff like a/s/l is sitting there next to a large box of kleenex, proberbly with a web cam aimed at their nether reigons and if they ever do arrange a meet, they will email the next day with some lame excuse for leaving you waiting ( not relising that you didnt waste the time and had a great time with them other blokes who did turn up)
I must admit tho, when I was in my prime ( not that many years ago lol) i had a line which went like...' hi, do you like kids?.....you do?.....great....wana go halfs on one ?'
Still trying to work out why it didnt work !!
Paul
Hi mal
I am busy on Wed, would have been good to meet a mod !! (creep aint I ?)
I may be able to suggest a few places to stay tho, so if you not already sorted, let me know what sort of hotel you looking for, you got the choice from humble b&b right up to 5 star, and of course all the little back street places Brighton is famed for !
Paul
I am busy on Wed, would have been good to meet a mod !! (creep aint I ?)
I may be able to suggest a few places to stay tho, so if you not already sorted, let me know what sort of hotel you looking for, you got the choice from humble b&b right up to 5 star, and of course all the little back street places Brighton is famed for !
Paul