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2 months ago
Bi-curious Male, 48
Bi-curious Female, 46
UK

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I agree with all the posters who have said this is an adult site. Besides, the pictures have been approved by admin so if they don't have an issue with it....
To be honest, I wouldn't dream of looking at this site if a child was likely to be looking over my shoulder. I have a 4 year old sat right in front of me now, but as soon as she moves - that's me outta here! Depending on their age, it's not just the pictures that could cause an issue. Words tend to jump out of a screen.
Imagine on the next school run.
"mummy, what's a cumslut" :-o
OK, maybe i'm going to extremes there, but if you don't want your kids viewing pictures of an adult nature - then don't peruse the sites whilst they're around. And don't make the rest of us feel like we're doing something wrong when we're not!
*Her*
Oh and it's not just the older couples who struggle to meet. We've had a run of bad luck recently and at 30, I don't think we'd be classed as over the hill just yet. I think it's the nature of the game unfortunately.
*Her*
I would respectfully say, whatever your age, your profile is a huge turn off.
For a start, it doesn't make any sense but from what I can make out you're happy to tell people "up yours" That's charming!
Why not re write your profile, not with what you don't want but what you DO? A bit of positivity rather than negativity?
Just a suggestion dunno
*Her*
OMG lol.
One of the girls in our office is "veggie" but eats steak, lamb, sausages, bacon, chicken and ham - that I can think of lol
Theres NO telling her that actually, she isn't a vegetarian at all rolleyes
*Her*
I've found it's usually men who use this in chat/msn. Usually because they can't think of anything more descriptive to say rolleyes
It really frustrates me as i'm a word person, words turn me on (!) so to have mmmmmm every few seconds really doesn't do it for me. Tell me exactly what you're thinking and you're winning
*Her*
Quote by NW30'scouple
We have a great arrangement with a very close friend that’s been ongoing for about three years now. It started when we all shared a hotel room with two double beds and after a night out, we had an mfm which later lead to one on one between my gf and him whilst I watched from the other double bed.
Since then our friend has stayed with us about four times per year and my gf goes to him in our guest room and they have a one on one. We never discuss what we do between the three of us and the only talk that happens is between the two of them in bed and this has generally been about protection issues and whether to involve me in a further mfm, which our friend has said he’d prefer not to do as he would rather continue with the one on one. The following morning nothing is ever said and I have to say that this add to the thrill of the whole situation.
I’m totally happy with this and get huge pleasure from listening outside the door and then the incredible fun when my gf returns to our bed. The ground rules have pretty much been set in an almost unspoken way (if that makes sense) and we are both really happy with our arrangement and my gf and I have a huge amount of fun talking and reliving his visits, as you might imagine.
It is particularly good that our friend lives in London and his visits are frequent enough to keep the momentum going but not too frequent to make the situation boring.
My reason for posting is that we’d love to hear comments from any couples in a similar situation and to hear if they have any ideas or scenarios that they have found have added to the excitement of having such a long term arrangement, as we have been trying to think of ideas that we could try. Thanks!

Ohhhhh you're hotwifing! This is something we've started to dip our toes into recently.
I have no ideas on how to make it more exciting for you tho confused If the regular thing isn't doing it for you any more, have you considered bringing new men into the loop?
I hope to have several "boyfriends" eventually and that should keep it nice and exciting
*Her*
Well, I'm a man, and it's my bag so...
Lunch
Ipod
Paracetamol
Decongestant (I have a cold - mid summer ffs!)
Various charging cables
Oakleys
Erm... thats it. I need something exciting in there I reckon!
*Him*
Today wasn't too bad. Tomorrow will be horrendous. We have a spot audit - I think theres been a complaint against a consultant in the office and as she's on holiday and the boss doesn't have a clue how the office run - guess whose gonna have to deal with it? At best there'll be a hefty fine involved (to the consultant, not the company) at worst we could be shut down, either way I don't need to be taking 3/4 hours out of my day when i'm already covering 2 workloads and am busy enough on my own desk with 3 days off next week.
Actually, today was ok till I got home and my best friend in the whole world phones to tell me she has the one thing that I want and can't have at the moment and I don't know how i'm gonna face her for the coming months. I don't want to loose my friend but I just can't face her right now :sad:
On the plus side, I have a meet tomorrow (if he doesn't cancel lol )
*Her*
Can you commit us too please.
No hotel needed, we'll just stagger home :-D
First SH social we've been to in about 4 years surprised Think we'll only know you guys (Tweeky's) and a handful of others!
*Her*
Quote by demi
I am not interested in making this about me here thanks, the crux of the issue is responsibility and I feel the site is taking a very lax approach here.
There is a huge difference between being responsible and using your position to promote safe play, and policing activities.
There is a long list of activities/interests on the profile page which you can choose to tick or not, some are distasteful to certain people, for example, many people here think watersports is beyond the pale, but it is a whole lot safer than bareback sex.
I can only conclude the reluctance to take a proactive stance on this subject is down to lack of a backbone, I doubt very much the attitude summed up here as each to their own, live and let live etc. would hold much water with people who are involved with sexual health services or HIV treatment and education.
It is a cop out, plain and simple.

Goodness me! Take a chill pill.
This country is far too concerned these days with making others take responsibility for things we should be taking responsibility for ourselves.
If you need guiding on things blatantly about common sense then that's fine - the rest of us here are adults (most of us anyway wink ) and can make our own decisions without being babied into it.
YOU need to take responsibility for yourself as do every single one of us. It is not this, or any other sites role to do this for us. This country is enough of a nanny state as it is and it's people like you who continue to make it so!
*Her*
It's hot so flip flops are more comfortable. As someone else has said, feet swell in the heat (and heels)
I wouldn't agree that heels go with everything either. I went on a date last night with a guy who I know loves heels. At 9pm it was 27 degrees so I wore a rather gorgeous if I do say so myself maxi-dress (and little else wink ) Heels would not have gone with that at all
*Her*
I like a nice tight bum and a thong as much as the next man, but to have em on show like that? No ta!
A my darling wife said - Classy girl!
*Him*
Quote by BIoke
Nowadays I've just started to find women that are far less interested in 'turning you' and far more interested in joining in with the men that I play with.. simples :twisted:

wave
lol
*Her*
Quote by the_Laird
Remember......I wanna be there!!!

I think we should organise our own wink
We have a 15ft swimming pool...... lol
*Her*
So we're dabbling in a little Hotwifing and are members of another site to do with the lifestyle. I'm undecided what it is, but the bulls (for want of a better word although we're not into the cuck side of it) on there are so different from the single males on any swinging site we're on (and we're on many)
They're respectful of the Hotwives, polite, friendly, no "fancy a shag" pm's and then whinging when you say no.
No "woe is me, i'm a single male, no one will give me a chance"
I can't decide whether it's to do with the lifestyle or the fact that it's mainly Americans on there and they have a different way of looking it.
Rather than a piece of meat (as I have sometimes felt on swinging sites) I feel respected, almost like the holy grail. The bulls know they have to prove themselves and understand they are priveleged to be bought into a marriage and make it known that they appreciate it. They are horrified that at least 6 of the meets we've arranged (for me solo) were cancelled on us.
Maybe if single males in the swinging world/in the UK behaved more like this, they'd get more luck? Does anyone else have any thoughts on this?
Oh, and this isn't a single male bashing thread, i'm just curious as to why the stark difference?
*Her*
Well, I'd love to be able to help, but we're still languishing on XP. You could always downgrade back to XP lol.
Doubt that helps tho, so Imma shut up now!
*Him*
Quote by BIoke
until your teeth chatter and your toes curl? Whatdayasay? :rascal:

lol :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:
*Her*
Quote by Dave__Notts
I have to say, for me at the moment it's the following (in this order)
1) Looks (good clear face pics)
2) Local
3) Personality
I have to say however, i'm not being particularly successful with this at the moment. 2 meets lined up today and both cancelled on me. Genuine reasons, i'm sure, but goes to show it's not just single males that have the problems!
I can't give it away at the moment :sad:
*Her*

If you change your preferences to:
1) Short
2) Fat
3) Bald
I am your man lol
Dave_Notts
Dave rotflmao
And a kiss for making me smile on a particularly depressing evening
*Her*
I have to say, for me at the moment it's the following (in this order)
1) Looks (good clear face pics)
2) Local
3) Personality
I have to say however, i'm not being particularly successful with this at the moment. 2 meets lined up today and both cancelled on me. Genuine reasons, i'm sure, but goes to show it's not just single males that have the problems!
I can't give it away at the moment :sad:
*Her*
Quote by Dave__Notts
Who's this Mids Chick, is she fit? cool

Yeah but she's out of your league too so don't waste your PM's... I'll do your PR :rascal:
;)
Oooh, you're doing PR now are you BIoke? Can you do me please? lol
Good luck with the responses Brucie, keep us all informed!
*Him*
That was a coffee meet monitor moment.........and I don't know if you meant it or not :lol:
Dave_Notts
Pssssst. I think he did wink
*Her*
Quote by BIoke
Who's this Mids Chick, is she fit? cool

Yeah but she's out of your league too so don't waste your PM's... I'll do your PR :rascal:
;)
Oooh, you're doing PR now are you BIoke? Can you do me please? lol
Good luck with the responses Brucie, keep us all informed!
*Him*
Hey Tweeky,
Can we stick Dmojo2009 down as tagging along with us? I know he'll be on the reserve list but he's asked us to post.
TIA
*Her*
Our limits are constantly changing - and fast! The constant's we have and I think we always will are no scat, watersports or real pain.
We're just enjoying pushing our boundaries right now wink
*Her*
With an attitude like that........
........don't let the door hit your sorry whinging ass on the way out flipa
*Her*
We've only got up to naughties in a few public places really.
Close to home....about half a mile down the road, theres a car park. We drove there a couple of months ago and got busy in the car just for the sheer hell of it.
Further from home there was the time we were in the sea on a beach in Ibiza.
*Her*
Someone actually said to me once "I may not be Fred Flintstone, but I bet I can make your bed rock" rolleyes
To be fair, I was laughing so hard, I couldn't see to slap him lol
*Her*
1) They're expensive
2) Have you tried finding them once the initial hype died down
3) They're not so easy to just "whip out" in the heat of the moment
Should I go on?
"The poor fella"? Give me a break lol
*Her*