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18 Jul 2006

Quote by lauraxxx
omg chill out was only a title i have meet plenty of people on here and am no way being funny putting birthday treat was only the ttitle 2 get people attention is this not where u advertise for meets and after all that is what i am after i am a geniune person and any1 wo has meet me will conferm that dont take thinks so seroius as for chat rooms i dont have jarva so cant go in chat room doesnt mean i dont respect people thanks very much think you post was a bit unfair ment no disrespect by it ......

Hi Laura
I'm sure you didn't mean to offend anyone, and I'm sure you have met lots of people, and I'm sure you do respect people. However, the first post on this thread did have a bit of a 'single woman as novelty toy' tone about it, and I think sexkitten's point was a valid one.
I also get a bit sick of the posts asking for a single woman to meet up for a birthday treat, or 'to show my wife a good time', or 'to show my hubby a good time.' This is supposed to be about mutual pleasure, there's supposed to be something in it for us as well - us single women aren't here for your convenience, but for our own reasons, and personally I'm always much more likely to respond to an ad that seems to take my needs and feelings into account, and offers ME something I want, rather than just asking for something from me.
I think that's what sexkitten was saying, and I agree with her. Take it as advice rather than criticism - if, as you said, you 'never seem to find any girls on this' then it might be worth listening to a tip from a couple of single girls!
Cocoa x

13 Jul 2006

markz, is that you? rolleyes

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12 Jul 2006

Quote by the_Laird
live each day as if it was the last

Tried that but kept waking up with no money and no clean clothes confused

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but at least you kept waking up :D
Yeah.....skint and naked :?
Who needs money when you have a naked Laird? :twisted: :D

12 Jul 2006

Quote by meat2pleaseu
....compliments gratefully received, cocks in face less so.' )

:doh: thats where i went wrong
*makes note,
1. say 'cracking tits Miss Cocoa'
2. cock in face.
not other way round redface

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Nah, as it's you, either way round'll do..... :D passionkiss

passionkiss

11 Jul 2006

I kind of find that half the fun of the whole club experience is the 'working out how to approach people' bit - whether I'm feeling all confident and taking the 'right you, you're coming with me' approach, or whether I'm a bit subtler and more flirtatious, I rather enjoy the bit between spotting someone you fancy, and actually getting to shag them. I don't really get off on the whole 'sex with strangers' thing anyway, so on the (very!) rare occasions I play at clubs with people I don't already know, I like to spend some time chatting and flirting - it gives you a bit more time to work out who they are, what they're like, what their rules are going to be.
And as Neil says, anyone who's offended by your approach - assuming your approach is well-mannered - is probably not worth your time anyway. People surely realise that their own particular rules aren't obvious to everyone unless they're told about them - if they're reasonable people, they'd not be offended by a polite inquiry!
(loving the idea of the signs BTW.... I may design myself one for next time, 'Single Bi Fem, ask before touching, compliments gratefully received, cocks in face less so.' biggrin

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11 Jul 2006

Quote by Jas-Tim
Mike I'm sorry, but I have to disagree with you on this Happiness as a lot of the couples here i'm sure n hope will agree with me is
"A loving partner and mutual respect for each other..if youve got that there aint much life can chuck at ya that you cant handle as in my book " Its the best"

As much as I love my Timmy and can't imagine being without him, my happiness is not reliant on him.
Yes, it makes difficult things easier to handle if you have support, but my everyday happiness is down to me.
It would be unfair to make anyone else wholly responsible for personal happiness, everyone around me contributes to my happiness and I'm responsible for the managing the rest.
Jas
XXX
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I really believe that happiness is not something that someone else can give you - it's something you give yourself. One of the biggest steps towards happiness, I think, is realising that you are ALREADY a whole person - you don't need 'another half' to complete you. Other people can give you all sorts of things, and can definitely contribute to your happiness - and not just partners, but friends, family, all kinds of people in your life - but if you depend on them for happiness, you're going to be disappointed.
I quite like the idea of teaching happiness in schools, actually. Of course it's something parents should be helping their kids to understand - but you only have to look around you to see just how many peoplearen't given any sense of self-worth or any 'tips on happiness' by their home life. If kids can be taught a few of the basics at school, it might save an awful lot of therapy and soul-searching later in life. Of course, self-help-book authors and publishers might not be too chuffed about it lol

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10 Jul 2006

Quote by westcountry pair
Hi
Guys love to join u all let us know what s happenining ie numbers going of each sex etc
A & D

Hi A & D
I thought I'd just pick up on this quickly, to save the tweekys some time ;) - this is a purely social event, and so I wouldn't have thought the numbers of each sex going is something that it's really relevant to know. All regular members of this (and another) forum are welcome, and the list as far as I remember it is a mixture of single men, single women and couples.
Just wanted to make sure you hadn't got the wrong idea about this event. smile

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Cocoa x

9 Jul 2006

Quote by de_sade
If you practice safe sex with ALL your partners there would be NO NEED to go to your local Glasshouse (clinic) every three months, six months or six years; and the bollocks about what if the barrier / condom / whatever breaks is just that - bollocks. If you need to go to a clinic every so often because of that occurrence then maybe it's time to change your brand ... or technique.
Safe sex ... It might not be the most exciting way to swing but it is the most responsible.
De_sade

I'm sorry, but that's absolute bollocks. The phrase you're looking for here is 'SafER sex'. Yes, condoms reduce the risk of catching an STI, but they are NOT 100% effective, and there are some STIs that can be caught from non-penetrative contact, and it just IS NOT enough to assume that because you use condoms you don't need to think about it again.
It's not about the possibility of the condom breaking, it's about the FACT that condoms don't protect you 100%.

27 Jun 2006

Quote by meat2pleaseu

did have a conversation at the last social about how quickly you get used to some of the sights that you once considered kinky, perverted or a fantasy (this conversation took place about 3 feet from a MMF and a girl/girl session, just after i'd finished chatting about cars with someone else ) and wasn't that shocked the first time i saw a guy getting a BJ off another about 6 foot away (granted, i was benig distracted by one of the ladies there :rascal

Ahhhh, that post brought back some good memories :twisted:
I love this place. :D
who said you were there, little miss no knickers smackbottom

smackbottom

Who said the good memories were anything to do with the particular evenings you were writing about there, Monsieur Incroyable? dunno

dunno

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I was merely musing on some of the weird and wonderful situations I've found myself in since I've been here.... some of which sound oddly similar to some of yours :P

27 Jun 2006

Quote by meat2pleaseu
did have a conversation at the last social about how quickly you get used to some of the sights that you once considered kinky, perverted or a fantasy (this conversation took place about 3 feet from a MMF and a girl/girl session, just after i'd finished chatting about cars with someone else ) and wasn't that shocked the first time i saw a guy getting a BJ off another about 6 foot away (granted, i was benig distracted by one of the ladies there :rascal

Ahhhh, that post brought back some good memories :twisted:
I love this place. :D

27 Jun 2006

Perfectly happy with my boobs, they do their job and fill out clothes nicely and make me go all tingly when they're played with! What more could I ask of them? biggrin

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27 Jun 2006

Quote by meat2pleaseu
trust me, it's always very nice to meet Cocoa :smitten: (hiya gorgeous hwoar: )

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passionkiss

(hiya you - will thank you for that in person this weekend :twisted smile

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Edit: and Celestria, :inlove: right back atcha :) :passionkiss:

27 Jun 2006

Feels a bit silly saying 'hello and welcome' when your thread has already settled into football-kit banter with the Meaty one, Dammy and Fektart lol

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..... but hello and welcome anyway!
I can see you're going to fit in well here. biggrin

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If you have questions or need someone to bounce thoughts off, please feel free to PM me - it's not long since I was a brand new single girl trying to find my way around. I'm sure it won't take you long to settle in!
Cocoa x

22 Jun 2006

Quote by Cock of the North
Also I haven't posted here for ages and I think most of my old associates have moved on so I fear I won't even get ego-saving moral support from those that know me.

Would some ego-saving moral support from those who don't know you help at all? ;)
I rarely bother looking through LMU these days, because there are never any posts like this one. Proper informative articulate post, backed up by a post history of someone who's obviously been around a while, is (or was) known on the forums and sounds like a genuinely interesting, erm, dude.
If I was in Dublin, I would get in touch. Best of luck, hope someone closer to you responds and you're not stuck flirting with barmaids all weekend. smile

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Cocoa x

21 Jun 2006

Quote by the_Laird

Fee, may I borrow your

Quote by LadyFeeBee
:lickface: :twisted: :smitten: :rascal:

for a minute, please?
And while I'm about it, can I borrow your hubby for a bit too? :inlove: :twisted:

20 Jun 2006

Quote by Pete_sw
1. Paris
2. Ice Cream
3. Unearthing a tent from the garage and finding it still has all the right bits

20 Jun 2006

Quote by meat2pleaseu

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19 Jun 2006

Awwww, you lot are all so sweet!
Much as I love my single status, threads like this kind of make me think 'Oh, yeah, that was nice. I miss that.'
Feklar and Celery, can I come up soon and be your girlfriend for the weekend and have you leave me love notes all over the place and stuff?
And is there room for 3 in your bath? :twisted: biggrin

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19 Jun 2006

Hi and welcome - settle yourselves in, and I hope you have a great time here.
Cocoa x

19 Jun 2006

wave

Hi lavabubble! Welcome to SH, you're going to love it here. biggrin

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Cocoa x

16 Jun 2006

Ooooooooooh I'm so jealous! Have an amazing time tonight, all of you - do a little Time Warp for me! biggrin

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16 Jun 2006

Whether or not you really have a wife, the phrase 'she's finally come round to being part of an MMF threesome' isn't exactly going to draw the masses, I wouldn't have thought.
We like to play with people who want to play, around here - not people who are being reluctantly persuaded.

16 Jun 2006

Ooooooh, it's tomorrow! Have fun, you guys... wish I was coming! Will have a quiet little toast to you all while I'm at the reunion BBQ thingummy I'm going to. :cheers:
Cocoa x

16 Jun 2006

Quote by meat2pleaseu
can't play properly until i get round to re-installing photoshop, but specially for miss darkfire

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That's fantastic, Meaty-treat! biggrin

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And is it just me, or do those feet look like willies?

16 Jun 2006

Quote by Kiss_Me
What a fantastic idea, Kiss_Me! So nice to read a post like this in here.
Wish I lived near you
Cocoa x

See it's atavars like yours that make me think that it could be a sex thing!

rotflmao

I would take you down the river - but into the bushes! :twisted:
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Woo hoooooo! Everyone, d'ya see that? Kiss_Me wants to take me into the bushes! :rotflmao:
Thanks hun lol

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passionkiss

Again - wish I lived nearer! Feklar and Celery, go on, move to Bedford, I'll come and move in with you and we can take turns watching the kids! :lol:
Cocoa x

16 Jun 2006

Interesting thread, Dark.
I know it's one of my weaknesses that I tend to give people the benefit of the doubt - I'm very friendly and bouncy with everyone, and very open, and I don't put up walls with people like a lot of people do. I used to think that was the best way to be.
A couple of experiences recently have rather changed my mind about that, and I'm trying to learn to keep a bit more of myself back until people prove they can be trusted with it. I suppose I'm already at a bit less at risk because I don't tend to chat to people online unless I've met them in person, or at least been 'introduced' online by a friend I trust. But I'm making more of an effort these days to be a bit careful even with the people I meet in person, and most of all, to trust my instincts. The couple of unpleasant experiences I've had, could have been avoided if I'd been a bit more assertive - because I knew something didn't feel right, from the start, and I should have said something then and there rather than letting it develop to a point where I really had to make a scene. I've never got into any real trouble - I know better than to be alone with someone I find in any way uncomfortable, and whenever things have gone a bit wrong I've known I had friends there to keep me safe - but I've still let things develop to the point where I was really uncomfortable, and I'm responsible for having let it go that far.
I like being friendly and open with everyone I meet - but I think it's important to reserve trust and respect for the people who prove they deserve it. And when you feel that something isn't quite right, to get the fuck out of there. biggrin

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Cocoa x

16 Jun 2006

This was the best I could find!
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Edit to say.... oops, and Minxy found it first while I was looking! redface

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16 Jun 2006

Quote by Darkfire
My munch hat died :cry:

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I can vouch for the fact that there is indeed something about women in hats, when it's Dark in her munch hat. :twisted: ;)

16 Jun 2006

Quote by meat2pleaseu
Think Binxy should really have 'How do you spell 'Egg Thingy's' in Wenglish?'
(don't ask, it's cos she's strange )

rotflmao

I'll second that!

15 Jun 2006

sexkitten...

rotflmao

SO with you on that one! I have a load of bookshelves in my room that I put together myself... the top couple of shelves are ok, but I got something wrong and the further down you go, the further squiff the sides are... the sides at the bottom are so far apart that I've had to pile books sideways to prop up the bottom two shelves! :rotflmao:
curvygal, you're a braver woman then me, I'd never even attempt wallpaper! biggrin

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