most people on here know this, cos I somehow manage to work it into every post, but I love repeating it, so here ya go:
I was born and raised in New York, as in City as in America.
Mr. ocky was born in New York, raised in Houston, Texas and then moved to NYC where we met and lived together for the last 6 years.
My mo... i mean, mum, was born in London so I have citizenship and we are living in Oxford cos is studying here.
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ms ocky (not trying to lead an SH american revolution, she promises)
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the sun is out the sky is blue so why not buy a big issue??? (sorry there is one bloke who repeates this day and in and day out on a certain corner I pass every day)
warm days remind me of being 17, hanging out on my best friends' roof smoking cigarettes at dusk, afternoons of driving in my car with the windows down, depeche mode on while going to my secret boyfriend's house... sneaking in with my friends to the park late at night to get drunk get high hang out... and when I was older, hot days in central park stripped down to almost nothing eating cold watermelon soaked in voddy with my girlfriends, and hot new york nights - parties on friends roofs out in brooklyn and four or more of us piled into the shower w/ the cold water on to "cool off"
oooh. I love summer. Going home next week, can't wait to get there.
warm days remind me of being 17, hanging out on my best friends' roof smoking cigarettes at dusk, afternoons of driving in my car with the windows down, depeche mode on while going to my secret boyfriend's house... sneaking in with my friends to the park late at night to get drunk get high hang out... and when I was older, hot days in central park stripped down to almost nothing eating cold watermelon soaked in voddy with my girlfriends, and hot new york nights - parties on friends roofs out in brooklyn and four or more of us piled into the shower w/ the cold water on to "cool off"
oooh. I love summer. Going home next week, can't wait to get there.
I tried to go back and stick an explaination in, but it didn't work.. or maybe it did and isn't showing and I'm repeating myself now....
My friend came to visit us in March (from New York) after stopping off in London to stay with some family she has there. When she got here she told us she has a cousin about our age, born and raised in London, who referred to Oxford as "ocky." So a week later when we joined SH I figured "ocky" was a nickname other people used for Oxford as well, and would be clear to people where we're from. But I was wrong, the girl is a nutter and now we're stuck with a confusing nickname.
but at least it's not "hornyobnoxiousamericans"
we're not obnoxious so I wouldn't have used that anyway.
My friend came to visit us in March (from New York) after stopping off in London to stay with some family she has there. When she got here she told us she has a cousin about our age, born and raised in London, who referred to Oxford as "ocky." So a week later when we joined SH I figured "ocky" was a nickname other people used for Oxford as well, and would be clear to people where we're from. But I was wrong, the girl is a nutter and now we're stuck with a confusing nickname.
but at least it's not "hornyobnoxiousamericans"
we're not obnoxious so I wouldn't have used that anyway.
LA sucks...
i wouldn't try the swingers club there only because the people in LA are horrid fake things and the whole place is just a plastic nightmare. But i have friends who live there (unfortunately) so i'll try and get you some advice from them.
but try and get down to San Fran. It's a bit of a trip but worth it. Tons of fun sex to be had there and the people are great.
If I had to live somewhere, other than New York of course, in the states, it would be San Francisco.
i wouldn't try the swingers club there only because the people in LA are horrid fake things and the whole place is just a plastic nightmare. But i have friends who live there (unfortunately) so i'll try and get you some advice from them.
but try and get down to San Fran. It's a bit of a trip but worth it. Tons of fun sex to be had there and the people are great.
If I had to live somewhere, other than New York of course, in the states, it would be San Francisco.
when i chose the name i didn't know people wouldnt know what the heck "ocky" meant.
the sweeties thing is cos we both love to eat candy and, wait for it, we're both sweet. awwww..
I felt I gave it some creativity. (ocky didn't know what I chose and doesn't like being an ockysweetie. oh well.)
the sweeties thing is cos we both love to eat candy and, wait for it, we're both sweet. awwww..
I felt I gave it some creativity. (ocky didn't know what I chose and doesn't like being an ockysweetie. oh well.)
so many...
The Pillow Book - my favortie of the "naked Euan " movies.
Bound - watched it almost every week with my girlfriend when I was in HS
Y Tu Mama Tambien - sooooooooooo hot
Secretary - I am in love with Maggie as in
and this last one may make people roll their eyes at me, but I thought the kiss scene in the first Spiderman was ridiculously hot. There is nothing I like better than a reallly good kiss, the kind that makes your knees go wobbly.
Mr. Ocky wants me to put in his: Salma Hayek's strip tease in "from Dusk til Dawn"
The Pillow Book - my favortie of the "naked Euan " movies.
Bound - watched it almost every week with my girlfriend when I was in HS
Y Tu Mama Tambien - sooooooooooo hot
Secretary - I am in love with Maggie as in
and this last one may make people roll their eyes at me, but I thought the kiss scene in the first Spiderman was ridiculously hot. There is nothing I like better than a reallly good kiss, the kind that makes your knees go wobbly.
Mr. Ocky wants me to put in his: Salma Hayek's strip tease in "from Dusk til Dawn"
It's true what people are saying, you only have one mum and one dad, and you need to do you best with the time you have with each other to show that you love and care for one another. The mother My best friend since childhood passed away two months ago after a year-long battle with cancer. I went home to say goodbye before she passed and to be there for my friend. since her mother is one month younger than mine and since I spent half my time at their house, it was a really painful experience and made me realize the importance of family
but mothers and fathers are people with their own histories (often painful ones) weaknesses, strengths. I am sorry for all of you here who are suffering or who have suffered by the hand of their parents either physical abuse, mental abuse, rejection they are supposed to be the ones who love us no matter what. I agree everyone needs to try and make a good relationship with their parents, if they can and if they are willing to forgive them.
I think the letter is a wonderful idea. Tell her that despite all that has happened between you, you still want a relationship and you are willing to be there, like Vix said, give her the option to get in touch ( a cd is also a wonderful idea, along with a letter) but since she seeems til unwilling to work things thru right now, realize that you are still a loved and good person, that you love your mother deeply despite the rough past, and hopefully one day in time she will see that having a loving relationship with her daughter is more important than anything else.
I am rambling... PM if you like, but I'm sure you're getting tons and tons of support and advice
-ms ocky.
but mothers and fathers are people with their own histories (often painful ones) weaknesses, strengths. I am sorry for all of you here who are suffering or who have suffered by the hand of their parents either physical abuse, mental abuse, rejection they are supposed to be the ones who love us no matter what. I agree everyone needs to try and make a good relationship with their parents, if they can and if they are willing to forgive them.
I think the letter is a wonderful idea. Tell her that despite all that has happened between you, you still want a relationship and you are willing to be there, like Vix said, give her the option to get in touch ( a cd is also a wonderful idea, along with a letter) but since she seeems til unwilling to work things thru right now, realize that you are still a loved and good person, that you love your mother deeply despite the rough past, and hopefully one day in time she will see that having a loving relationship with her daughter is more important than anything else.
I am rambling... PM if you like, but I'm sure you're getting tons and tons of support and advice
-ms ocky.
My family is like the mafia and my mother is like the godfather... I'm not kidding. I fly home to new york for more family events than anything else, and I've spent equal time there and here since moving over to Oxford.
My mom and I have a volatile relationship too, I am the baby of the family and everyone has a certain opinion of me that is unfounded and my Mom still resents me kinda for growing up as I was supposed to stay young and needy and live at home with her. But I love her and I want to please her too, it's what all kids do, except she makes my life miserable so often.
given the situation and that you want conact with her, is show her and yourself that you are making an effort to patch things up. Reach out to her. Don't let her abuse your affections however and if she isn't ready, let her know you want a relationship when she is, but start to realize that you are strong and that you've done what you can.
good luck
xxx
My mom and I have a volatile relationship too, I am the baby of the family and everyone has a certain opinion of me that is unfounded and my Mom still resents me kinda for growing up as I was supposed to stay young and needy and live at home with her. But I love her and I want to please her too, it's what all kids do, except she makes my life miserable so often.
given the situation and that you want conact with her, is show her and yourself that you are making an effort to patch things up. Reach out to her. Don't let her abuse your affections however and if she isn't ready, let her know you want a relationship when she is, but start to realize that you are strong and that you've done what you can.
good luck
xxx
:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: what more is there to add?
one - I wanted to make a public apology as I sometimes (tho most only in the chat room?) call people on their spelling... I try to do it in a teasing way as it's my way of flirting really and not meant o put anyone down.
two- I have no suggestions about how to make this site better, I didn't know it needed that...and as a newbie I don't know what it was like *before* but I do sometimes feel bad for being a newbie. A lot of times I feel lost and don't know the "right" way to interact here, I just do my best to be friendly, thoughtful and honest. I'm shy, so is my partner, and being shy can sometimes make this place feel intimidating.
But I'm glad I found SH. I don't know anyone here too well, but I'm slowly getting there with some, and those I do know a little are so very lovely and so much fun, and so much nicer than any people I've met in the "real" world here in Oxford. It was a little scary moving to England but SH has helped make it less lonely for me. Even if this is a bad/slow period on the forums, I want to stick around a little longer.
so I guess essentiall all that rambling was to say "thanks"?
one - I wanted to make a public apology as I sometimes (tho most only in the chat room?) call people on their spelling... I try to do it in a teasing way as it's my way of flirting really and not meant o put anyone down.
two- I have no suggestions about how to make this site better, I didn't know it needed that...and as a newbie I don't know what it was like *before* but I do sometimes feel bad for being a newbie. A lot of times I feel lost and don't know the "right" way to interact here, I just do my best to be friendly, thoughtful and honest. I'm shy, so is my partner, and being shy can sometimes make this place feel intimidating.
But I'm glad I found SH. I don't know anyone here too well, but I'm slowly getting there with some, and those I do know a little are so very lovely and so much fun, and so much nicer than any people I've met in the "real" world here in Oxford. It was a little scary moving to England but SH has helped make it less lonely for me. Even if this is a bad/slow period on the forums, I want to stick around a little longer.
so I guess essentiall all that rambling was to say "thanks"?
there ARE
the weirdest thing for us at our first munch (does it count for us as it was brief, we don't know) was being introduced by our forum nick to others with their forum nick... it felt like a superhero team or something...
esp cos I neglected to remind my partner what our nick is.... as he only posted once a loooong time ago and I logged him in to do so and set up him. But I used both the chat and the forums under the same nick, just to make sure I have my alliances covered.
the weirdest thing for us at our first munch (does it count for us as it was brief, we don't know) was being introduced by our forum nick to others with their forum nick... it felt like a superhero team or something...
esp cos I neglected to remind my partner what our nick is.... as he only posted once a loooong time ago and I logged him in to do so and set up him. But I used both the chat and the forums under the same nick, just to make sure I have my alliances covered.
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aah i reckon youve got a point there, alot of people confuse the yoof with burberry on as chavs but actual chavs are the ones who recently beat my mate semi conscious with baseball bats for fun. chavvie is origianally a gypsy term for children and the masses have taken this moniker on as their own. there is always going to be hostility between different social groups because of fear of difference and misunderstanding, but theyre all just people at the end of the day, some are scum and some arent.
like the ones who make disgusting and threatening comments to me on my walks to and from the bus, or the ones who tried to break into my house or the ones who DID throw a rock thru our window...
I kinda like the "C" word.. can't stand saying "pussy" I feel like an idiot.
growing up I wasn't allowed to say either twat or "c**t" as both are considered really really badly insulting.
And when I first moved here I did get the "lets get the american to say fanny" trick. you are all hilarious.
growing up I wasn't allowed to say either twat or "c**t" as both are considered really really badly insulting.
And when I first moved here I did get the "lets get the american to say fanny" trick. you are all hilarious.
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Hey Laird, if you drive round early in the mornings you can find these already flattened and shaped into a hamburger!
:cry: :cry:
:x armadillos maybe, but NOT HEDGEHOGS!!!!Where have you seen a squashed armadillo?
Didn't think they were that common in Oxford
I lived in Austin, Texas for a year. There are more squashed armadillos on the highways of Texas than there are live ones in the wild. damn things are as slow as they are stupid... and the only animal to carry leprosy so don't touch em.
