not to sure of the answer though,
we have spoken to each other before now on our change of oppinion on what constitutes "cheating".
when i was younger i didn`t consider kissing or a "bit of a play" to be cheating, where as penitration was.
now, on the other hand, nower days i would be devestated if i saw choozy kissing someone else. that may seem strainge as we are "swingers" and enjoy going to clubs but as yet have not done any swapping.
we do feel that we will only be soft swingers due to the pain we think we may feel seeing other people touch the one we love. now all that said choozy is also bi curious and i would not consider her being with another fem as cheating on me nor would i mind her kissing another fem.
so i suppose the answer to the question on my part is, i don`t know :doh:
