Vix, as we've already said, you need to vary those ads so that they are specific to each category.
A single male would not be interested in hearing you also want single women or couples as It's not relevant to him. Your text needs to outline the reasons why you're looking for a single male as well as the usual stuff about you.
You can then go on to do the same for single women.
If you really do need help putting together different ads, I'll try to help. Once your ads are markedly different from each other, you then can't be subjected to complaints about 'spamming' as has happened in your case.
Hxx
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Heather
Over 90 days ago
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A quick check on the address you have registered for Forum use says that you have a second addy is use in the photo ads section. Could it possibly be that the missing ads are in connection with the first address?
As you know, you can only have ONE verified address in use for the photo ads section. If you need any more help, PM me or one of the other Mods with the address you are using and we'll look into it further.
Hxx
As you know, you can only have ONE verified address in use for the photo ads section. If you need any more help, PM me or one of the other Mods with the address you are using and we'll look into it further.
Hxx
Leaving aside the discussion on the actually avatar - 'cos Jags has already done so..
Do you realise that this is the most popular sex contact and swinging site in Britain? Do you realise that if you hit 'Swinging' or 'Dogging' or almost every term for casual or recreational sex into Google, it leads you straight to this forum?
Having thought about that, do you then realise that almost certainly your friends, family, neighbours and work colleagues or anyone else you know who are bored and have access to a computer are looking at a snap shot of you sucking a vibe? Possibly right now...
I know what I'd do.
Do you realise that this is the most popular sex contact and swinging site in Britain? Do you realise that if you hit 'Swinging' or 'Dogging' or almost every term for casual or recreational sex into Google, it leads you straight to this forum?
Having thought about that, do you then realise that almost certainly your friends, family, neighbours and work colleagues or anyone else you know who are bored and have access to a computer are looking at a snap shot of you sucking a vibe? Possibly right now...
I know what I'd do.
Poohbear... How nice it is to see a couple like us. Makes me feel not so much of a freak. 
:D
Yep... I've had enough thoughts now. And some of you have been very kind and taken the trouble to PM me. I guess my ad just has to go.
Maybe Terry and I should get a joint email addy to run our ad from? :D Maybe even consider a joint forum account... ?
Er.... help! I've just realised I'm not single any more!
:uhoh: :eeek:
:D Yep... I've had enough thoughts now. And some of you have been very kind and taken the trouble to PM me. I guess my ad just has to go.
Maybe Terry and I should get a joint email addy to run our ad from? :D Maybe even consider a joint forum account... ?
Er.... help! I've just realised I'm not single any more!
:uhoh: :eeek: Well, we ARE a boyfriend/girlfriend thingy. Still at a little delicate stage in the preceedings, but you don't say and do to a swinging partner what Terry and I say and do. I wanted to know if any other couples had got together through swinging and how they felt about the change of mindset. Did they wake up one day, like I did, and think 'I can't let this go on such a casual basis..'.
And...
Am I still coming across as a single female? 'Cos men are still writing to me in the belief I am. They make no reference to my partner at all.
Maybe the fault here is a little to do with me too...
And...
Am I still coming across as a single female? 'Cos men are still writing to me in the belief I am. They make no reference to my partner at all.
Maybe the fault here is a little to do with me too...
:shock:
Mal... I hadn't thought of that! :twisted: :twisted: What an excellent idea!!
Neilliepops..
I know Terry has a special place in his heart for you, as often, after a long heavy shag in front of his famous log fire, he'll spring up and announce "Time to hit the chatroom and wind up Neilinleeds".
On reflection, I think it's time for a spruce up with the ad and I shall get a roundtoit tonight after work.
Thanks for suggestions and comments, guys...
Hxx
Mal... I hadn't thought of that! :twisted: :twisted: What an excellent idea!!
Neilliepops..
I know Terry has a special place in his heart for you, as often, after a long heavy shag in front of his famous log fire, he'll spring up and announce "Time to hit the chatroom and wind up Neilinleeds".
On reflection, I think it's time for a spruce up with the ad and I shall get a roundtoit tonight after work.
Thanks for suggestions and comments, guys...
Hxx
Has anyone else here, like me, got attached in a romantic sense to someone they met through swinging...? 
This is, as has been chronicled at length in these pages, Outdoorfun and I now come as a package'. I've yet to run the gauntlet of meeting his Mum
:uhoh: But he has met my kids and they think he's some kind of DemiGod. The youngest one even went as far as saying he was a 'cool dude'. 
Now here's the thing that's on my mind today...
I am still getting lots of mails from rampant single guys suggesting all kinds of rude things. My ad says I have a partner and I don't know what else I can add to that to convince them of the fact. So why are they approaching me and not even making reference to him?
I'm finding my reactions are getting quite defensive. Even though Terry would probably hold my coat if I wanted to go and shag them, I find it all a little threatening - and this coming from the girl that can handle four cocks at once!
So is it me...? Am I feeling a little insecure? Is my ad not clear enough? Is it in the right category? Should I drop the ad in favour of just a joint ad for us as a couple...?
I wanted to also ask if any guys in a similar position find it hard making the transition from 'Swinging Partnership' to 'Couple' as there have been, and still are, times when I can't get my head around some stuff...
Ta
Hxx
This is, as has been chronicled at length in these pages, Outdoorfun and I now come as a package'. I've yet to run the gauntlet of meeting his Mum
:uhoh: But he has met my kids and they think he's some kind of DemiGod. The youngest one even went as far as saying he was a 'cool dude'. Now here's the thing that's on my mind today...
I am still getting lots of mails from rampant single guys suggesting all kinds of rude things. My ad says I have a partner and I don't know what else I can add to that to convince them of the fact. So why are they approaching me and not even making reference to him?
I'm finding my reactions are getting quite defensive. Even though Terry would probably hold my coat if I wanted to go and shag them, I find it all a little threatening - and this coming from the girl that can handle four cocks at once!
So is it me...? Am I feeling a little insecure? Is my ad not clear enough? Is it in the right category? Should I drop the ad in favour of just a joint ad for us as a couple...?
I wanted to also ask if any guys in a similar position find it hard making the transition from 'Swinging Partnership' to 'Couple' as there have been, and still are, times when I can't get my head around some stuff...
Ta
Hxx
Read the guidelines in the Dogging section. There's plenty of tips on Dogging etiquette.
Remember you're in charge and decent doggers will wait to be invited to approach. When you're ready to be approached, turn on the inside light. Don't open the window until you're ready. Don't open the car door until you feel safe... and you go as far as you want to. Some girls only like to 'show' themselves playing with their partner, others will engage with the doggers, some will go all the way, some might just be happy giving blowjobs or handjobs. It's all down to your lady and what she wants.
If it's an issolated spot, getting out of the car is okay, but do always bear in mind the police might turn up so be prepared to a quick get away - and don't leave the keys in the ignition just in case some twat tries to make off with it when you are otherwise occupied. :twisted:
Hxx
Remember you're in charge and decent doggers will wait to be invited to approach. When you're ready to be approached, turn on the inside light. Don't open the window until you're ready. Don't open the car door until you feel safe... and you go as far as you want to. Some girls only like to 'show' themselves playing with their partner, others will engage with the doggers, some will go all the way, some might just be happy giving blowjobs or handjobs. It's all down to your lady and what she wants.
If it's an issolated spot, getting out of the car is okay, but do always bear in mind the police might turn up so be prepared to a quick get away - and don't leave the keys in the ignition just in case some twat tries to make off with it when you are otherwise occupied. :twisted:
Hxx
Kinky... Even though Terry wouldn't mind (and he'd probably hold the guys trousers for him!), somehow I can't face it either.
And it's been a long time since I turned down and truckie... :twisted:
Venus... He's doing fine - now - but we only just managed to spot him jumping on the ferry to go chase the lady down to Greece.
Ain't love grand...?
And it's been a long time since I turned down and truckie... :twisted:
Venus... He's doing fine - now - but we only just managed to spot him jumping on the ferry to go chase the lady down to Greece.
Ain't love grand...?
:rascal:The quickest route to failure is not think you have to be something other than yourself..You're not looking for a life partner, you're looking for mates.
Personally, I never see a guy who I find more physically attractive than my partner, or better company... but I do enjoy the attentions of randy, confident blokes who make it plain they want to get in my knickers. :twisted:
Personally, I never see a guy who I find more physically attractive than my partner, or better company... but I do enjoy the attentions of randy, confident blokes who make it plain they want to get in my knickers. :twisted:
To cut a long story short, a pal is very down on his luck - caused by the after effects of a relationship break up - and is currently staying in his caravan in my front driveway. It's weird because it's like he's both a neighbour and a lodger at the same time.
I'm also doing his laundry, cooking for him to make sure he's eating well and letting him use my address for job applications, etc... because that's what you do when your mates are in need. I do confess, though, that he's chipping in a few quid to the sinking fund so it's all mutually nice.
My pal is an ex 'professional' escort and specialist movie star. :twisted: These days he drives lorries, though. But he does on occasion do the odd non-fee paying or charging 'event' for a laugh...
This is what happened today..
Friend: "Heather, you're a f***king diamond, you are! If it weren't for you, I'd be in the gutter with no one and nothing. You've been the best mate I've ever had and a lot better than all my other bloke mates put together.... Tell you what gal, and I'm not just saying this, but even though I couldn't fancy you baked, you've been so good to me I'd shag you if you want me to..."
:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
I'm also doing his laundry, cooking for him to make sure he's eating well and letting him use my address for job applications, etc... because that's what you do when your mates are in need. I do confess, though, that he's chipping in a few quid to the sinking fund so it's all mutually nice.
My pal is an ex 'professional' escort and specialist movie star. :twisted: These days he drives lorries, though. But he does on occasion do the odd non-fee paying or charging 'event' for a laugh...
This is what happened today..
Friend: "Heather, you're a f***king diamond, you are! If it weren't for you, I'd be in the gutter with no one and nothing. You've been the best mate I've ever had and a lot better than all my other bloke mates put together.... Tell you what gal, and I'm not just saying this, but even though I couldn't fancy you baked, you've been so good to me I'd shag you if you want me to..."
:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: Quote by EnglishChris99
I should think anything you do will be perfect... as long as you are there with him.
Thanks, Chris...! :)
Of course you are right.
Thanks for the idea of the Producers, Sean... I hadn't realised it was on and I'll check out ticket prices.
Cheers, Yellowfrog... but we've done loads of pubs.
I just want an excuse to see him in his Bow Tie again - which he wore at the SMB. :inlove:
Help!!! :shock: :shock:
Admittedly I'm going about this 'courting' business arse about face, but I have finally plucked up the courage to ask Outdoorfun to go out with me - and he said yes! :D
The thing I need help with is where... and don't say sex clubs or Munches!
I did spot something but it was too short notice for him and now I can't find anything else.
Does anyone know of anything happening in the London area in the next week or two? It has to be something really grown up and grand - like Opera, Ballet or a classical concert. And it also has to be within the budget of someone very skint - me!
I do so want to take him somewhere nice. I want it to be perfect... It'll be the first proper grown up date I've had for 13 years... :cry: :cry:
Ta
Hxx :D
Admittedly I'm going about this 'courting' business arse about face, but I have finally plucked up the courage to ask Outdoorfun to go out with me - and he said yes!
:D The thing I need help with is where... and don't say sex clubs or Munches!
I did spot something but it was too short notice for him and now I can't find anything else.
Does anyone know of anything happening in the London area in the next week or two? It has to be something really grown up and grand - like Opera, Ballet or a classical concert. And it also has to be within the budget of someone very skint - me!
I do so want to take him somewhere nice. I want it to be perfect... It'll be the first proper grown up date I've had for 13 years... :cry: :cry:
Ta
Hxx :D
Well, the Banksy thingy led me to a cliched Anti-American pastiche of works which carry much more weight in their original context, and the other one was a shot of a couple of bins against a wall...
Compare this with the power of Ruben's Massacre of the Innocents - which can be viewed at the National Gallery for free! - and I know which I'd rather gaze at...
And I'm supposed to be a thick philistine here anyway, so what did you expect..?
Compare this with the power of Ruben's Massacre of the Innocents - which can be viewed at the National Gallery for free! - and I know which I'd rather gaze at...
And I'm supposed to be a thick philistine here anyway, so what did you expect..?
