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Perforated_cat
Over 90 days ago
Straight Male, 52
Bisexual Female, 40
0 miles · Stoke-on-Trent
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Hi
Localish guy wanted so that girlfriend to have the attention of two men for the evening, most important that its a great first experience for her :!:
Ideal guy would be over 30+, toned (ish), red hair, with tatoos (one will do) and averaged size equipment (cos where its going is very tight)
Let us know a few scenarios that come to mind for a very dirty but submissve girl and we might be meeting
Cheers
Localish guy wanted so that girlfriend to have the attention of two men for the evening, most important that its a great first experience for her :!:
Ideal guy would be over 30+, toned (ish), red hair, with tatoos (one will do) and averaged size equipment (cos where its going is very tight)
Let us know a few scenarios that come to mind for a very dirty but submissve girl and we might be meeting
Cheers
Quote by Shireen_Mids
However................... Having searched the photo ad's is it little wonder that couples dont get replies to their ad's?? :shock: Some of the title's of the ad's are enough to put you off let alone the content!! :shock::
Lots of people offer to write your CV, maybe you should offer to write these peoples profiles - not for money, of course
I doubt that any of them read the forum's but if they do please look at your ad and consider if you were a single bi fem looking to meet with a couple would you reply to your ad??
Some of them do, just some cant get their other halfs in the damn chatroom!!!
I think its a good question for guys who haven't tried it - sorry some of you SEEM so hardened to it that it MAY have lost its mystery.
My personal view is that you wouldn't end up 'feeling gay' if you were doing it for the girl. It would be more about giving her something she could never have had without another guy being there - dildos are fine, but its not the same as having two guys thinking only about your pleasure. You might like to watch your girl with another guy whilst you had sex with her, but thats still not going to make you start 'feeling gay'.
However, if you were bi-curious then you would maybe start 'feeling gay' and isn't that the whole point of it - thats exactly what you wanted to find out if you liked. I guess it would all depend if you were doing it for you or for her or for both of you.
Not tried it myself, but if the g/f was genuinely interested I would be doing it for her and for me and I'd be interested to see how this 'feeling gay' felt. I'd happily let you know my mental and emotional response to rubbing cocks with a guy afterwards Spurter.
Guess we both have to keep our fingers crossed!
My personal view is that you wouldn't end up 'feeling gay' if you were doing it for the girl. It would be more about giving her something she could never have had without another guy being there - dildos are fine, but its not the same as having two guys thinking only about your pleasure. You might like to watch your girl with another guy whilst you had sex with her, but thats still not going to make you start 'feeling gay'.
However, if you were bi-curious then you would maybe start 'feeling gay' and isn't that the whole point of it - thats exactly what you wanted to find out if you liked. I guess it would all depend if you were doing it for you or for her or for both of you.
Not tried it myself, but if the g/f was genuinely interested I would be doing it for her and for me and I'd be interested to see how this 'feeling gay' felt. I'd happily let you know my mental and emotional response to rubbing cocks with a guy afterwards Spurter.
Guess we both have to keep our fingers crossed!
Quote by sheddy
Hi
Has anyone else moved away from an area that seemed less well represented on SH, only to find that place livens up after you have gone?
Well going off your location your not far from me (or at least where my profile says I am)
So my advice is......................................................................
FFS SOD OFF :shock: before you scare them all away from here aswell
Ahh I'm only joking...................howdy neighbour
However I'll have to admit it's very dedecated of you to relocate just to be in a more swinger populated area, just think if estate agents got wind of it SH could actually affect property prices
:lol:Howdy neighbour, been that way once
I will try and not scare people off but it might be my natural charm that sends them screaming away :?
Didn't move just because i checked the SH shaggo-metre but if it increases property prices in this area that would be handy - after i have bought a house :(
Ok, if i assume that she was only saying what she thought i wanted to hear, how far would a person go to play along?
Would you expect them to pay to join this site seperately?
Place an ad themselves?
Speak to people from this site about possibly meeting?
Exchange numbers with other people?
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Would you expect them to pay to join this site seperately?
Place an ad themselves?
Speak to people from this site about possibly meeting?
Exchange numbers with other people?
: Quote by Darkfire
when its her who's bringing it up, dropping it into converstaion, talking to you about it rather than the other way round??
Yes, that would be fine but im not sure that when she started saying it i hadn't already said something myself... leaving me second guessing who brought it up first, a situation that mirrors the chicken and egg question.
This is a serious question
How can you tell if your girlfriend is genuinely interested in a threesome and isn't just saying she is because she knows its something you would enjoy? Applies to MFM just as much as FMF
I accept that talking about it with her is the obvious thing to do but are there any other... erm, signs? I dont mean the kind Mystic Meg would come up with either.
Thanks
How can you tell if your girlfriend is genuinely interested in a threesome and isn't just saying she is because she knows its something you would enjoy? Applies to MFM just as much as FMF
I accept that talking about it with her is the obvious thing to do but are there any other... erm, signs? I dont mean the kind Mystic Meg would come up with either.
Thanks
Quote by sandboy
Just one final point, after your freind has puored out his problems, forget them and NEVER mention them again!!!
Not sure I can agree with this entirely.
If I were in that situation (again), I feel it would be far more helpful to me if my friend had listened as you say, then remembered EVERYTHING I'd said. Whilst I agree in part that I would not want them to mention it unless I spoke of it again, it would be more helpful - bearing in mind those suffering from depression dont do confrontation (including confronting issues) - that my friend listened carefully in case, when I talked about things, I was actually giving my friend an excuse to raise issues from a previous conversation that I couldn't come out and say it myself.
On alcohol, as has been mentioned in threads before, it is not good for depression. However, making someone feel a social leper (which is just how you feel most of the time) by saying "you cant drink" doesn't help. A good friend would have a couple of beers in the fridge, but not have enough to get drunk on. Doing "normal" things can be just as helpful as physical exercise, though I do agree that exercise is an extremely good for depression (setting a goal of running 3 miles, and then achieving this, makes you feel normal for the day... well some of the day).
As to advice, some say you shouldn't give any and let the person talk it through. However, if they could talk it through with you and solve things that easily, then they could have sorted it out in their own time in their own head - you think depressed people dont consider things until a friend says "Hey, what you thinking"? One problem with depression is that you lose control of your life, so a friend TELLING you what to do doesn't help, they are taking even more control from you. A friend suggesting what you COULD do might be helpful, but only if they give good advice (and hopefully they would have thought it over and over until they were sure it was good advice). In my opinion, even if you gave your friend a halfway decent "out" to this situation then you would at least restore some kind of control to your friends life, he either considers it or dismisses it, but he had to think about it and chose.
It can be the smallest of things that help.
Just 2p
Mmm, it could seem a little clicky on here because lots of the same people seem to post messages - but then they are the ones who are hooked
It could seem that only the posts that these guys reply to survive - but it could be they help keep the threads going with their imput :D
As for making you rejoin the site if you are away, that doesn't fit with my own personal experience - thanks to Mark.
I have been an occassional visitor, lost internet access for a while, came back and messed my account up by being an idiot, and wanted to keep the name perforated_cat so I wouldn't go back to being a complete newbie - and thanks to Mark that is exactly what has happened. :D
Three cheers for all the regulars and mods
It could seem that only the posts that these guys reply to survive - but it could be they help keep the threads going with their imput :D
As for making you rejoin the site if you are away, that doesn't fit with my own personal experience - thanks to Mark.
I have been an occassional visitor, lost internet access for a while, came back and messed my account up by being an idiot, and wanted to keep the name perforated_cat so I wouldn't go back to being a complete newbie - and thanks to Mark that is exactly what has happened. :D
Three cheers for all the regulars and mods
Quote by Clare_Lincs
Hi Clare & Steve,
I would very much like to come to your party. :cheers:
Sorry but as weve said we only invite people weve already met or spoken to for some time into our if we ever meet you at a munch or elsewhere then maybe for a future one!
What if you thought you'd met them or weren't sure?
By the way, what are your views on hypnosis
Quote by Sgt Bilko
- I cant be the only man who gets PMs from single straight men referring to posts I've made, who couldn't read or couldn't be bothered to read?
Well I never get any!! :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock:
:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:Try posting in Lets Meet Up stating you want a shag and where you come from.
This approach to posting clearly identifies you as male, but you could put Man... want shag... I come from...
Then count the straight men who got so excited by the word shag they dont read either your sex, sexual preference or even your location.
Quote by bluexxx
Have you got any examples?
I've got lots of examples. On a site I used to frequent, a long long time ago (I'd say going back ten years), I was known as Martin, I had lots of friends and no-one ever sussed me.I could have had loads of meets if I'd have persued them.More recently, maybe 5 years ago, again on a site now dead I used to pose as different male characters. Boring straight characters never got anything of course, but make the character interesting and bingo, loads of people want to talk and meet. There is a chat site I use very occassionally still if I want a laugh. If I log on there as a young bi male or a TV I get a whole nights worth of laughs.
See, loads of examples of my fake characters
My god, your starting to think like a man Blue!
I dont think many women pretend to be men, more likely that its men assuming everyone is a potencial female - I cant be the only man who gets PMs from single straight men referring to posts I've made, who couldn't read or couldn't be bothered to read?
Quote by juliett49
Right, that's it, i've had enough of men. You're all the bloody same. You lot wouldn't know the truth if it came and bit you on the bum!
So, I've decided to explore my 'other' side.
A great idea, then you can discover that women too can be the guilty ones in the next Trisha show "My partner is a lying cheat and I want them to take a lie-detector test even though I already know the answer"
Enjoy the otherside anyway, but not because its a last resort!!!
It would be fair to say, thought the SW might be a swinging place, the actual activity level from the SW on this site is less than in other areas.
The often mentioned SW Munch might improve the profile of the SW, but as few people seemed to show an interest (i.e. posted replies) it often comes across as a disaster waiting to happen.
The often mentioned SW Munch might improve the profile of the SW, but as few people seemed to show an interest (i.e. posted replies) it often comes across as a disaster waiting to happen.
I'm curious, hence the name
A bi-male is obviously interested in sex with men and women, but what if someone was only interested in part of the male-male scene.
A bloke who only wanted to recieve oral from a woman would be called selfish, but is that the case with a bloke when talking about blokes... when the receiving bit takes on a whole new meaning?
Is there a special term for a man who only wants to play the "male role" so to speak?
APOLOGIES IN ADVANCE if this way of putting it offends any gay/bi men (or anyone else for that matter)
A bi-male is obviously interested in sex with men and women, but what if someone was only interested in part of the male-male scene.
A bloke who only wanted to recieve oral from a woman would be called selfish, but is that the case with a bloke when talking about blokes... when the receiving bit takes on a whole new meaning?
Is there a special term for a man who only wants to play the "male role" so to speak?
APOLOGIES IN ADVANCE if this way of putting it offends any gay/bi men (or anyone else for that matter)
Every time they look at their empty PM box 
I think you know you've watched a damn fine film when, despite being a man trying to hold his emotions in check surrounded by other manly types at the cinema, you have to wipe away at least one tear.
Some films have scenes such as these, its rare now but some do and I'm not talking about tears becuase you've laughed so much how bad the film your watcing is - that point where you've decided not to get up and leave but just enjoy the worst film you've seen to date and be damned you laughing at its serious bits
I think you know you've watched a damn fine film when, despite being a man trying to hold his emotions in check surrounded by other manly types at the cinema, you have to wipe away at least one tear.
Some films have scenes such as these, its rare now but some do and I'm not talking about tears becuase you've laughed so much how bad the film your watcing is - that point where you've decided not to get up and leave but just enjoy the worst film you've seen to date and be damned you laughing at its serious bits
