Reckon the number of times surgeons have attacked me in recent years they trying to make their own A-Z.
Now detest hospitals and need to be dragged kicking and screaming as a last resort.
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Yes UK it's always best to let the person open them as so important they put their feel on the cards first.
That way they can get them to work properly for them.
Only one set I found haven't really worked for me never felt drawn to then at the start.
Sure your friend will be over the moon with your choice for her.
Enjoy your visit UK
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That way they can get them to work properly for them.
Only one set I found haven't really worked for me never felt drawn to then at the start.
Sure your friend will be over the moon with your choice for her.
Enjoy your visit UK
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Can relate to that Devon.If going away not able to pack things till a couple of hours before I leave.
Even then at least one of the cats tries to get into bag or suitcase.
When I get back get the sulks and the punishment for daring to go away and leave them.
It's as though should ask permission before going away.
One will wander of for at least 36 hours and the other 2 just refuse to come near me.
The joys of pets.
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Marya >>>runs and hides as have 3 felines.
On second thoughts should I start collecting ammunition.
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Absolutely great sword know what like to spend hours on phone to NTL as was then.
Been a customer of theirs since they went live in my area way back when in early 90's.
Yes they have been rubbish at time between reporting faults to getting an actual tech out to resolve, or not as the case may be it.
At one time took them 8 days before able to reconnect my broadband.
All due to a loose wire at an outside box.
Now the change over to Virgin Media is happening from my point of view noticed an improvement in service.
Reported a fault with broadband link the other week and was offered an engineers appointment for the next day, if they were unable to fix at their end.
They did rectify it but still rang me next morning to check if all was right and if still required an engineer. Totally unheard of in days of NTL.
Made enquiries regarding upgrading tv cable box only to told by sales was a months waiting list.
Yet when connected to right department it was installed less than a week later. Still a case of one section not knowing the full facts.
The best/worst part that as an existing customer we have to pay when calling them regarding faults etc. unlike the previously free phone number.
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Been a customer of theirs since they went live in my area way back when in early 90's.
Yes they have been rubbish at time between reporting faults to getting an actual tech out to resolve, or not as the case may be it.
At one time took them 8 days before able to reconnect my broadband.
All due to a loose wire at an outside box.
Now the change over to Virgin Media is happening from my point of view noticed an improvement in service.
Reported a fault with broadband link the other week and was offered an engineers appointment for the next day, if they were unable to fix at their end.
They did rectify it but still rang me next morning to check if all was right and if still required an engineer. Totally unheard of in days of NTL.
Made enquiries regarding upgrading tv cable box only to told by sales was a months waiting list.
Yet when connected to right department it was installed less than a week later. Still a case of one section not knowing the full facts.
The best/worst part that as an existing customer we have to pay when calling them regarding faults etc. unlike the previously free phone number.
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Echoing what the others have said what a great change for an intro pobox.
Munches are fun and really good way of putting faces to the names, or anything else :evil2: for that matter.
With the sort of intro you've got here on the forum can see you finding the chatrooms a welcoming place for you.
I'll be sure to say hi if see you about in them as they're my normal haunt.
Have fun and welcome
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Munches are fun and really good way of putting faces to the names, or anything else :evil2: for that matter.
With the sort of intro you've got here on the forum can see you finding the chatrooms a welcoming place for you.
I'll be sure to say hi if see you about in them as they're my normal haunt.
Have fun and welcome
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Echoing what the others have said what a great change for an intro pobox.
Munches are fun and really good way of putting faces to the names, or anything else :evil2: for that matter.
With the sort of intro you've got here on the forum can see you finding the chatrooms a welcoming place for you.
I'll be sure to say hi if see you about in them as they're my normal haunt.
Have fun and welcome
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Munches are fun and really good way of putting faces to the names, or anything else :evil2: for that matter.
With the sort of intro you've got here on the forum can see you finding the chatrooms a welcoming place for you.
I'll be sure to say hi if see you about in them as they're my normal haunt.
Have fun and welcome
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The reverse of this had an 'old boy' move in next door to me a couple of years ago. Although rather nosey would pass time of day when ever saw him out and about.
Bless seemed nice enough to start with till he settled in.
Sure he has several volumes of books with day/times and car registration numbers of visitors to my place.
Can guarantee his front curtains twitch what ever time get home at night.
Cheeky sod told a female friend who was waiting for me to get home about all the 'men' who come and go!!! Hoping for some juicy gossip no doubt.
He hasn't got the front to ask me directly. Especially as one day over heard me say to my cat " You grumpy old b....d you can pack that in right now"
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Bless seemed nice enough to start with till he settled in.
Sure he has several volumes of books with day/times and car registration numbers of visitors to my place.
Can guarantee his front curtains twitch what ever time get home at night.
Cheeky sod told a female friend who was waiting for me to get home about all the 'men' who come and go!!! Hoping for some juicy gossip no doubt.
He hasn't got the front to ask me directly. Especially as one day over heard me say to my cat " You grumpy old b....d you can pack that in right now"
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If as you say she has only known this guy a few days then maybe a swingers party isn't quite the right place for her.
Personally I would want to know the person for a longer period of time if a non swinger before doing what your friend is contemplating.
Having said that she will make up her own mind.
Perhaps you could suggest she set's up a safety net for herself. Whereby if she needs to get away from the situation she can do so easily.
On the other hand she may be happy enough at the party and really enjoy herself.
Took me months before decided to go to a munch and that's purely a social event. Even then arranged things that if I felt uncomfortable could get away.
Above all else no matter how much she feels for this guy it's still very soon to be taking such a leap into swinging.
Personal view point if she has any doubts about the evening then should seriously consider how wise it would be to go with him.
If he does care for her then he should understand.
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Personally I would want to know the person for a longer period of time if a non swinger before doing what your friend is contemplating.
Having said that she will make up her own mind.
Perhaps you could suggest she set's up a safety net for herself. Whereby if she needs to get away from the situation she can do so easily.
On the other hand she may be happy enough at the party and really enjoy herself.
Took me months before decided to go to a munch and that's purely a social event. Even then arranged things that if I felt uncomfortable could get away.
Above all else no matter how much she feels for this guy it's still very soon to be taking such a leap into swinging.
Personal view point if she has any doubts about the evening then should seriously consider how wise it would be to go with him.
If he does care for her then he should understand.
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Graham the name and shame policy is not possible sadly as you said also could be open to abuse by in theory would sure stop some of this happening on here.
However, word soon spreads if someone is a persistent offender especially if you frequent certain rooms majority of the time.
Sorry Ange and H to learn what you've been through hope it won't stop you staying for the sake of genuine friends you apparently do have on here.
As others have said reducing the amount of personal information given helps to an extent. Yet at some point need to place trust in the other member and exchange these especially as planning a meet.
It's a right pain having to change an msn or address.
Not sure if others know but msn now have a new thing to join a network with your own contacts. Be warned this then makes your details available to people you don't know on their contact list.
Likewise all your contacts get passed on to not just to them but all of theirs too.
Never know who is being given access to your msn details without your consent.
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However, word soon spreads if someone is a persistent offender especially if you frequent certain rooms majority of the time.
Sorry Ange and H to learn what you've been through hope it won't stop you staying for the sake of genuine friends you apparently do have on here.
As others have said reducing the amount of personal information given helps to an extent. Yet at some point need to place trust in the other member and exchange these especially as planning a meet.
It's a right pain having to change an msn or address.
Not sure if others know but msn now have a new thing to join a network with your own contacts. Be warned this then makes your details available to people you don't know on their contact list.
Likewise all your contacts get passed on to not just to them but all of theirs too.
Never know who is being given access to your msn details without your consent.
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True never going to stop the minority saying unkind,abusive things even if not on cam.
If in a hosted room then it does help as the person if persists can be removed. They often come back for more but many learn whilst others don't and end up getting kicked many times in an evening. :smile:
Mind if you enjoy using your cam why let those idiots win.
Have actually gone through a rather tough time with a specific person and did report them.
Jokingly call them my nemesis now for they don't speak but will constantly watch my cam. Still a little raw from what happened.
Won't let them intimidate me and turn my cam off for then they have won.
It takes take a little courage to do so but friends are there as support. Sure they would like nemesis to over step the mark again.
There are plenty on site who will stand up when see abuse going on. Have known times when others do report an incident even if not been done by member actually on receiving end.
We all here to have fun and enjoy ourselves in whatever way we choose. Why let the minority spoil it for the rest of us.
It's a shame that often it's a single guy giving problems. As a result makes the genuine good ones have a more difficult time here. (had to stop and think what word to use instead of hard :twisted: )
To echo what woo and mallock has said reporting the people should be done,even if you don't like doing so.
If haven't copied and pasted to a word file just send details of time,server and room to admin. Then the logs can be checked.
Personally I have felt awful reporting anyone but then thought if don't how many others will suffer the same abuse as I did.
Cuddles if can't see an Op in any rooms have a look in the forum and see if one is about there then send a pm to them.
Has worked for me when no Ops around in main rooms.
Woo are you really hated that much? Seem to recall you had trouble escaping from a room the other evening. :evil2:
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If in a hosted room then it does help as the person if persists can be removed. They often come back for more but many learn whilst others don't and end up getting kicked many times in an evening. :smile:
Mind if you enjoy using your cam why let those idiots win.
Have actually gone through a rather tough time with a specific person and did report them.
Jokingly call them my nemesis now for they don't speak but will constantly watch my cam. Still a little raw from what happened.
Won't let them intimidate me and turn my cam off for then they have won.
It takes take a little courage to do so but friends are there as support. Sure they would like nemesis to over step the mark again.
There are plenty on site who will stand up when see abuse going on. Have known times when others do report an incident even if not been done by member actually on receiving end.
We all here to have fun and enjoy ourselves in whatever way we choose. Why let the minority spoil it for the rest of us.
It's a shame that often it's a single guy giving problems. As a result makes the genuine good ones have a more difficult time here. (had to stop and think what word to use instead of hard :twisted: )
To echo what woo and mallock has said reporting the people should be done,even if you don't like doing so.
If haven't copied and pasted to a word file just send details of time,server and room to admin. Then the logs can be checked.
Personally I have felt awful reporting anyone but then thought if don't how many others will suffer the same abuse as I did.
Cuddles if can't see an Op in any rooms have a look in the forum and see if one is about there then send a pm to them.
Has worked for me when no Ops around in main rooms.
Woo are you really hated that much? Seem to recall you had trouble escaping from a room the other evening. :evil2:
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Dreams only tend to happen because of the people I feel a deep connection with. For me has nothing to do with foods or anything else.
Very often have dreamed something recalled it in the morning and it stays with me.
Then later that day hear from the person about the very thing that was in my dream.
An example the other week got a dream was going to get a text message regarding a meet the following day. I knew something was wrong instinctively but hoped for once the dream would prove to be incorrect.
Not surprised when checked the in box as was an email from the person saying unforeseen circumstance meant postponing the meet that day!
At first found this sort of thing a bit spooky but over time have got use to it.
Definitely not a gut instinct as these often turn out to be wrong. Where as the dreams usually on the mark or with maybe a minor difference.
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Very often have dreamed something recalled it in the morning and it stays with me.
Then later that day hear from the person about the very thing that was in my dream.
An example the other week got a dream was going to get a text message regarding a meet the following day. I knew something was wrong instinctively but hoped for once the dream would prove to be incorrect.
Not surprised when checked the in box as was an email from the person saying unforeseen circumstance meant postponing the meet that day!
At first found this sort of thing a bit spooky but over time have got use to it.
Definitely not a gut instinct as these often turn out to be wrong. Where as the dreams usually on the mark or with maybe a minor difference.
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Gordy hope you learn some new moves......and not just from the workshops :giggle:
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Moi UK
Never
You were corrupted long before you met me
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You were corrupted long before you met me
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UK ..Now resorted to offering fringe benefits 
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Ah learnt a few things from the munch the me wonders
Did Harry give you a few tips or was it Essex34 :?:
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:Ah learnt a few things from the munch the me wonders
Did Harry give you a few tips or was it Essex34 :?:
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TQ
Found if try using the reload option many times can eventually get in ie took me 20 attempts before it loaded up.
Bit frustrating as once there find not the number of people there causing it failing to load
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can a mod move this please as this was in a reply on the beta room thread. However the system wouldn't allow me to do that. Insisted on a new post. ty
Found if try using the reload option many times can eventually get in ie took me 20 attempts before it loaded up.
Bit frustrating as once there find not the number of people there causing it failing to load
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can a mod move this please as this was in a reply on the beta room thread. However the system wouldn't allow me to do that. Insisted on a new post. ty
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Was able to get into the beta room this morning using firefox. Yet now it's just not loading up and nothing has altered on my pc.
Tried IE7 and can get in via that though find not stable enough hence using firefox.
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Tried IE7 and can get in via that though find not stable enough hence using firefox.
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Marya unless there is a problem whispers unlikely to be looked at I believe.
Though has been a time when been grateful to have the logs checked after a problem.
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Though has been a time when been grateful to have the logs checked after a problem.
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Can vouch for UK he is a lovely guy and great company too.
Definitely worth spending time with.
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Definitely worth spending time with.
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Like Hornblower unable to use Beta chat as says already logged in.
Had to use IE7 to try and use it this morning.
Got in just the once yesterday with Firefox and after logging out any other attempts resulted in just a grey screen.
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Had to use IE7 to try and use it this morning.
Got in just the once yesterday with Firefox and after logging out any other attempts resulted in just a grey screen.
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Thanks Tulip and Tony for arranging a great evening.
Good to meet the faces to the names. Will remember some by time had some more sleep plus sober!
Big thanks to Harry and will forgive you finding the obstacle course on the way to venue!!
It wasn't till I laid in bed Kim realised just how much scotch I'd drunk :crazy:
The unexpected disaster was finding the hire car wouldn't start this morning. Got it going thanks to the hotel chef bless him and limped home praying it would keep running. :censored:
Hopefully will get to chat to more people when get to another munch.
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Good to meet the faces to the names. Will remember some by time had some more sleep plus sober!
Big thanks to Harry and will forgive you finding the obstacle course on the way to venue!!
It wasn't till I laid in bed Kim realised just how much scotch I'd drunk :crazy:
The unexpected disaster was finding the hire car wouldn't start this morning. Got it going thanks to the hotel chef bless him and limped home praying it would keep running. :censored:
Hopefully will get to chat to more people when get to another munch.
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Hey Kim you not alone this will be my 1st munch too and also coming alone.
Know what you mean about the nerves :smile2:
Know what you mean about the nerves :smile2:
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Anais back in 87 went on an intensive one week course in North London the other person with us that week passed. I failed as I made a silly mistake and knew it at the time.
Booked a test for 6 weeks later thou my darn hubby 4 days before got a new car...an automatic!!! About a year later he got rid of it bought a manual car and that was the end of my driving. Not that he allowed me to get behind the wheel much in the first place. Costs back then are far different to now but it was worth every penny considering the amount of hours actually driving each day. I felt it was better than having an hour lesson once or twice a week but that's just my personal view.
Yet as others have said a lot of it comes down to the quality of the instructor and how well he/she can relate to you combined with their patience and understanding.
However back in 92 after a slight accident at work to needed to know if I was still able to drive safely plus wanted to get a manual licence. Had about 8 further lessons with a female instructor before taking test again.
That day had booked a 2 hour lesson prior to test as was advised which gave me a chance to settle any real nerves about it I had. Also she took me around some of the roasd in the area of the test to give me an idea of what to expect later.
The most scary part for me was waiting and seeing everyone else going off on test and still sitting there! Was last one in room but then examiner came out and off we went.
I was very nervous,petrified in fact as was a day when had a lot of pain from the injury.
The injury had been declared when applying for the test and first thing I was asked by examiner was how was I feeling that day.
Thankfully I passed but oh how nervous I became when discovered had been given the chief examiner at Loughton.
Nolonger have my own car these days but do get a hire car when going to certain work meetings.
Good luck you'll never regret it what ever age you get that full licence, though glad I never had to do the theory part.
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Booked a test for 6 weeks later thou my darn hubby 4 days before got a new car...an automatic!!! About a year later he got rid of it bought a manual car and that was the end of my driving. Not that he allowed me to get behind the wheel much in the first place. Costs back then are far different to now but it was worth every penny considering the amount of hours actually driving each day. I felt it was better than having an hour lesson once or twice a week but that's just my personal view.
Yet as others have said a lot of it comes down to the quality of the instructor and how well he/she can relate to you combined with their patience and understanding.
However back in 92 after a slight accident at work to needed to know if I was still able to drive safely plus wanted to get a manual licence. Had about 8 further lessons with a female instructor before taking test again.
That day had booked a 2 hour lesson prior to test as was advised which gave me a chance to settle any real nerves about it I had. Also she took me around some of the roasd in the area of the test to give me an idea of what to expect later.
The most scary part for me was waiting and seeing everyone else going off on test and still sitting there! Was last one in room but then examiner came out and off we went.
I was very nervous,petrified in fact as was a day when had a lot of pain from the injury.
The injury had been declared when applying for the test and first thing I was asked by examiner was how was I feeling that day.
Thankfully I passed but oh how nervous I became when discovered had been given the chief examiner at Loughton.
Nolonger have my own car these days but do get a hire car when going to certain work meetings.
Good luck you'll never regret it what ever age you get that full licence, though glad I never had to do the theory part.
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I agree flower411 it is so difficult knowing how to deal with someone who isn't actually breaking any rules and ignoring room host too.
Have found in most cases if they do not get the attention which they're seeking do leave room for elsewhere.
When I've hosted a room try to give people benefit of the doubt first time around. However after that try to speak privately to them about what ever it is they are doing. That way the room dynamics do not get disrupted by this and the 'kick' facitity is my absolute last resort. When been put in the situation of needing to give a warning this too I do in private.
Knowing the room and most of the people in it the host soon picks up if something isn't right. The advice about being firm and fair is good and applies even if you know the person very well. A host has to be impartial when it comes to dealing with a problem within the room.
Most host have their own way of running a room but the basic principle is always adhering to the site rules. Copying and pasting in the room does help when needed as it is a general warning and not aimed at any one individual. I have often added when doing this 'to those which this applies to'.
Naming the specific person in the room can often cause far more problems that it's worth.
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oops another soapbox moment sorry.
So far have always managed to deal with any problems without having to go and find an Op. There is always the option of reporting an issue within the room and getting the Ops to look at the logs later. This way I feel room dynamics would not be disrupted too much.
Nothing worse than having a room atmosphere totally destroyed by problems as very difficult to turn it around again.
Have found in most cases if they do not get the attention which they're seeking do leave room for elsewhere.
When I've hosted a room try to give people benefit of the doubt first time around. However after that try to speak privately to them about what ever it is they are doing. That way the room dynamics do not get disrupted by this and the 'kick' facitity is my absolute last resort. When been put in the situation of needing to give a warning this too I do in private.
Knowing the room and most of the people in it the host soon picks up if something isn't right. The advice about being firm and fair is good and applies even if you know the person very well. A host has to be impartial when it comes to dealing with a problem within the room.
Most host have their own way of running a room but the basic principle is always adhering to the site rules. Copying and pasting in the room does help when needed as it is a general warning and not aimed at any one individual. I have often added when doing this 'to those which this applies to'.
Naming the specific person in the room can often cause far more problems that it's worth.
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oops another soapbox moment sorry.
So far have always managed to deal with any problems without having to go and find an Op. There is always the option of reporting an issue within the room and getting the Ops to look at the logs later. This way I feel room dynamics would not be disrupted too much.
Nothing worse than having a room atmosphere totally destroyed by problems as very difficult to turn it around again.
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Getting to one of the dance weekenders somewhere is on my 'To Do List'..
Maybe towards the end of this year can make it happen. Know these weekends can have wild evenings but what a great way to spend them. Finding others who swing. :smile:
I keep this side of my life well away from my local club friends as know they wouldn't understand.
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Maybe towards the end of this year can make it happen. Know these weekends can have wild evenings but what a great way to spend them. Finding others who swing. :smile:
I keep this side of my life well away from my local club friends as know they wouldn't understand.
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yw you're welcome
Saves making too many typo errors! well when tired it does :smile:
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Saves making too many typo errors! well when tired it does :smile:
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Yes had well over 2 inches at 4am and been trying a little to snow again since. However unlikely to last too long.
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Amber excellent advice from both previous posts.
If the person will not stop even after being told point blank NO. Plus persists with all the calls/texts and emails you will have to contact the police there are laws in place for harrasement.
As previously stated warn him as/when or if he gets in touch again by text/call or email if he fails to respect the fact you no longer want anything to do with him.
Then if he fails to observe your wishes follow through by reporting him to the police.
If you have kept any text messages so much the better should you need to take the drastic action.
Totally agree if he continues giving you grief via the site Mallock is right keep any pm's and report to mod/Op or admin directly.
Know how you feel right now and you are right to go with your 'gut instinct' concerning other people you meet.
I have meet a couple of different people and then felt something wasn't quite right and gently backed off from them. Fortunately I've been lucky not to end up where you are now.
For every one person like that there are at least 10 genuine good people out there.
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If the person will not stop even after being told point blank NO. Plus persists with all the calls/texts and emails you will have to contact the police there are laws in place for harrasement.
As previously stated warn him as/when or if he gets in touch again by text/call or email if he fails to respect the fact you no longer want anything to do with him.
Then if he fails to observe your wishes follow through by reporting him to the police.
If you have kept any text messages so much the better should you need to take the drastic action.
Totally agree if he continues giving you grief via the site Mallock is right keep any pm's and report to mod/Op or admin directly.
Know how you feel right now and you are right to go with your 'gut instinct' concerning other people you meet.
I have meet a couple of different people and then felt something wasn't quite right and gently backed off from them. Fortunately I've been lucky not to end up where you are now.
For every one person like that there are at least 10 genuine good people out there.
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No problem Goldsmith took me a while when new room was up lat year to figure it out.
Glad helped you at least
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Glad helped you at least
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Goldsmith there is a block option at the very bottom of the chat window.
I discovered this when the new chat room was running last year.
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I discovered this when the new chat room was running last year.
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