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sexkittenhfx
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female, 45
0 miles · West Yorkshire
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Orgasminator
i was asked names a couple of years ago and was told it was so they could share information with other clinics to monitor whether the people id slept with had also been checked out, in the event of any of my tests coming back positive.
unless theyre going to start knocking on peoples doors and saying "you slept with so and so recently and we feel you need to be tested..." what are they going to do with that information? what about that persons privacy? where is their name kept? how long for? who sees it? what happens with it? is their name crossed off most wanted list in a central office when they turn up? would i be able to check with them that someone who's name id given in had been in, tested and what theyre results were?? you know, just in case i didnt believe them or whatever?
i chose to maintain the privacy of my partners as the advisor couldnt answer my questions.
ive never been asked names since funnily enough...it must have "awkward cow" scrawled across my file
unless theyre going to start knocking on peoples doors and saying "you slept with so and so recently and we feel you need to be tested..." what are they going to do with that information? what about that persons privacy? where is their name kept? how long for? who sees it? what happens with it? is their name crossed off most wanted list in a central office when they turn up? would i be able to check with them that someone who's name id given in had been in, tested and what theyre results were?? you know, just in case i didnt believe them or whatever?
i chose to maintain the privacy of my partners as the advisor couldnt answer my questions.
ive never been asked names since funnily enough...it must have "awkward cow" scrawled across my file
Orgasminator
bloody hell...its been aaaaaaages since i was at a munch or social!
id say i was a wall flower i think...apart from talking to the friends id made, i generally wouldnt have the gall to appraoch anyone i didnt know and no one ever approached me off the cuff like that either
id say i was a wall flower i think...apart from talking to the friends id made, i generally wouldnt have the gall to appraoch anyone i didnt know and no one ever approached me off the cuff like that either
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no its not the most pleasant of usernames 
have you tried looking for what your after on sites specifically for bi/gay men?
this is a swinging site and although i do see that theres alot of bi male action on here, it would seem to make sense that you tried to find what youre looking for on a site for bi and gay males?
i do know of one called squirt, try that?
in edit: after looking at your profile it would seem that youre quite experieced and know where to find meets? so im not sure what youre asking now.... just carry on using the sources you already have? :?
have you tried looking for what your after on sites specifically for bi/gay men?
this is a swinging site and although i do see that theres alot of bi male action on here, it would seem to make sense that you tried to find what youre looking for on a site for bi and gay males?
i do know of one called squirt, try that?
in edit: after looking at your profile it would seem that youre quite experieced and know where to find meets? so im not sure what youre asking now.... just carry on using the sources you already have? :?
Orgasminator
this is really intriguing me...does anyone know what it stems from? im guessing alot of people who have it written into their profile actually have no idea and are just copying it from others...its like some sort of chain-mail shit 
Orgasminator
i voted no, mainly because i wouldnt like to be judged on whether im "hot" enough to attend by someone that doesnt know me. or does know me for that matter!
"vetting" and "applicants" just doesnt make it sound like my kind of thing.
also the price is a bit steap but i understand youd be going for high end accomodation.
finally, im not sure about single females always going for free on stuff like this...im an adult, i can pay my own way
good luck with it though, sure youll get interest
i just wanted to explain my vote for you.
"vetting" and "applicants" just doesnt make it sound like my kind of thing.
also the price is a bit steap but i understand youd be going for high end accomodation.
finally, im not sure about single females always going for free on stuff like this...im an adult, i can pay my own way
good luck with it though, sure youll get interest
i just wanted to explain my vote for you.
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Quote by noladreams30
But, as I have said earlier, why do people feel the need to question, explain or justify their right to be here?
I am here because I pay my subscription to be here. End of.
What and why I do what I do whilst here is noone's business.
absolutely!
Orgasminator
thanks Dirtygirlie, this thread inspired me to have sex on a school night last night.....my colleagues didnt know what had hit them when they saw the smile on my face this morning.
i think i'll do it more often
i think i'll do it more often
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Quote by McrM4M-pvtOK
Uhm, where are the instructions for creating, managing, joining a group etc? Should't this be a sticky (or a site announcement)?
Where are other changes and updates mentioned? I've had a look round and can't see anywhere obvious.
anais made a thread that she replied to, a sticky...its not clear thats what it is though by glancing at the list of stickys...
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/288598.html
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Quote by Kiss_kissDo what thou wilt but harm none
Hi st3ve, I do but there's always another one to takes their place and it gets so wearing after a while, you feel like your constantly complaining
im guessing that these cryptic quotes you keep adding by quoting your last post are intended to be your signature? you need to go to forum settings and do that, then it will appear at the bottom of every post you make.
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Quote by anais
Hello Juicy :smile:
I'm sorry your friends are upset. Admin are trying to sort out the issue - once sorted out all comments are for approval by the account holder.
In the meantime, quickies should be able to be deleted by the account holder or the person who left the message. If your friends cannot do this - please ask them to pm Admin and explain, I'm sure they will delete them asap.
The quickie messages isn't meant to be for verification purposes at all. I know some members have been quite indiscreet with them ... Grrrrrr :mad: and if someone did that on my profile I would certainly let them know what I think.
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this is the first informative response that i have seen regarding peoples concerns about quickies, thank you anais.
i do wonder why it wasnt said earlier on on the main glitches thread or in the threads that were locked...it might have saved some animosity.
Orgasminator
im not the friend, but i did see fems post in the steam room and looked at her profile, all of her face pics were public at that time.
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Quote by foxylady2209
What are quickies?
Is there a place where the changes are described?
I like the 'mood' bit at the front but I can't see any other changes.
Do I have to be an extras member to see them?
no i think everyones got them...ive just sent you one....you should get a flashing green envelope and it should take you to your profile, scroll down and you should see it?
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Quote by Sarah
Common sense at last :thumbup: if you don't like that part of the site then don't use it! I don't like the videos so I don't go there.
i like to sometimes use the common sense that my dad always said i didnt have
this was the important part for me though....
i just find it odd that afer all the hoo-ha over verification that has gone on for years...its just suddenly added to the site without any warning!
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Quote by Cherrytree
I've been told by an Admin bod that when it's working correctly, they won't show until you have ok'd them to be seen.
thanks, ive been lazy and not contacted admin at all
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Quote by Sarah
The site has moved on / so have views of the people using it.
absolutely sarah, like i said, im not against simple verification.
i just find it odd that afer all the hoo-ha over verification that has gone on for years...its just suddenly added to the site without any warning!
when its working properly, i just wont approve any quicki messages that get posted onmy profile, simple enough :thumbup:
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Quote by Cherrytree
im genuinely interested in comment from admin or mods about the new quickie/verification system?
It's a good point.
When it's working properly, any messages would have to be authorised by the recipient before they would show on your profile.
So any bad ones need not be shown. But receive any good ones, as you say, and it's a verification system by another name.
I think the "quickies" are a cock-up and should be unplugged. (lack of the right technical word here
)ahh so the immediate pblishing of quickie messages without approval is a glitch?? thats better....but tis still an avenue for verification.
Orgasminator
thanks NWC
i understand that i can delete them when that function is fixed...however....as they are published immediately rather than approved by the profile owner.....if i dont log in for a couple of days, an "undesirable" message may have been sat there for a couple of days without my knowledge?
im not toally against verification, not at all, i do think we need clarification though, seeing as the site has always been against it and quickies are open to interpretation and will be used as a verification system.
i understand that i can delete them when that function is fixed...however....as they are published immediately rather than approved by the profile owner.....if i dont log in for a couple of days, an "undesirable" message may have been sat there for a couple of days without my knowledge?
im not toally against verification, not at all, i do think we need clarification though, seeing as the site has always been against it and quickies are open to interpretation and will be used as a verification system.
Orgasminator
im genuinely interested in comment from admin or mods about the new quickie/verification system?
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Quote by paulemma1
Where are all our friends gone off our list sites beginning to look more like facebook lol help plssssssssss
your friends are now in your favourites list
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i quite agree...if theyre here to stay then we should be able to choose which ones we show on our profile rather than have to check them to see what's been posted.
mine still wont delete, im assuming that will be fixed soon.
it absolutely is verification in my eyes. which im not that bothered about but i always thought this site wouldnt go down that route
mine still wont delete, im assuming that will be fixed soon.
it absolutely is verification in my eyes. which im not that bothered about but i always thought this site wouldnt go down that route
Orgasminator
ok well i will let you off then
really though, this is an excellent site, ive been here long enough to know this, give it a bit more time :thumbup:
and extras really isnt all that - the only thing i use from it is that it makes the videos a bit bigger.....i can live without that and spend my 25 quid on some new lacies next year :P
really though, this is an excellent site, ive been here long enough to know this, give it a bit more time :thumbup:
and extras really isnt all that - the only thing i use from it is that it makes the videos a bit bigger.....i can live without that and spend my 25 quid on some new lacies next year :P
Orgasminator
are you sure it didnt take you to your homepage to see a new quickie message that has been posted rather than to your inobx? i was a bit confuzzled too at first...
Orgasminator
huh? i only answered your query, no need to get all condescending.
good luck whatever you decide to do!
good luck whatever you decide to do!
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your membership cost 50 quid a year yeah? extras is 25 quid a year on top of that, if you want it...everyone gets a free months trial, looks like yours has finished.
i do have extras, i wont be getting it again as i dont find it very exciting to be honest
i do have extras, i wont be getting it again as i dont find it very exciting to be honest
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Quote by GnV
The slave references are MySQL program references - not descriptions of members :giggle:
i guessed as much
im sure it'll all be working well soon enough!
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yeah my x's dont work, apart from that and being called "slave3"...i like the new stuff 
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theres a little cross there to delete but it doesnt seem to work....
